Questions Answered
Describe how you like to kiss.
Depends on who I am kissing and the situation. Kissing as alchemy. You can start soft or you can crush your bodies together like it's the end of the world.
I like to feel out the rhythm. You give a little, then you take a little. You suck each lip, you kiss both, you dart tongues and swirl tongues and see what makes the other person's knees week or what makes them tighten up. You take notes and you enjoy yourself, simultaneously.
Once you understand how the other person kisses you can just fall into the kiss, you can pounce or tease or bite or what have you.
You wrote: "[T]here are maybe one or two people I've met that I feel naturally submissive to. I don't know what to do with that information, but it is nice to wallow in it when I am around them." Do those one or two people know that you do this?
I'm guessing one of them does. She's done things to show her awareness, but then again she is very perceptive. She seems like the kind of person who doesn't mind things coming together organically, if they ever come together at all.
This, like all things about her, frightens and intrigues me.
The other I have no real interest in telling.
What would your last meal on earth be if you could choose anything?
Sigh. Hard question, though I think I've answered it many times before.
Depends on my mood, I guess.
Today?
Caviar, toast points, creme fresh, froi gras.
A salad with bacon, blue cheese, mixed berries.
A mixed seafood plate, raw oysters, raw clams, jumbo gulf shrimp, lobster,
Huge well aged porterhouse, rare end of medium rare. Creamed spinach, potatoes roasted in duck fat. Marrow smeared on sourdough.
Pots de Creme, fresh whipped cream, raspberries.
Sex.
You mentioned going back to school to do an MA in literature, does this mean you have a BA in it? If so, has that background impacted your writing at all? What were you like as a student?
I don't have a BA in Lit Crit. I studied English in college and then went to art school for design. I did live with an English professor for many years though and read a lot of literary theory text. I've even sat in on PhD level classes.
The impact on my writing is that I think way too much about everything I write.
I was a horrible student because in my early 20's I was sure I was far brighter than everyone around me and I was also very lazy. I think if I went back I would do a lot better these days.
Are you really heteroflexible or do you just say that to be interesting?
It's a very weird thing for me to talk about. Honestly a lot of my brain is weird to attracting women and getting in women's heads and thinking about their bits and so on. Still, I am a sexual person and I'm not limited in my desires. I have been attracted to men on different levels and I have explored that in different ways throughout the years. Lately more so.
I have no frame of reference when it comes to playing with boys. I get all nervous and confused and flustered. I like it, though. I plan on exploring it more. In fact I have some very concrete plans in place.
So yes I am and yes, everything I say is to sound more interesting.
When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
I wanted to be a variety of things throughout my childhood. I wanted to be an actor or stand up comedian for a good portion. I was very fond of telling stories, to both the amusement and annoyance of all those around me. I was creative and had a fertile imagination (i.e. I was a compulsive liar.)
In high school I started to really want to write, but I also had some vague punk rock music aspirations, I thought I might make a good architect, so on. Later I was convinced I should be a linguist and then a literary critic/theorist.
In the back of my head I still think about going back to school at some point, maybe for a Masters in Lit Crit or something. I think I'd make a wonderful dirty old professor.
As I joyously shout: "CUNT WAFFLE!"
I think it's Twat Waffle actually. Just flows better.
Oh grand Marquis de Naugahyde, what tie will you wear tomorrow?
Yay, I did close'd mine eyes and spoketh to the stars and a voice did come down upon mine ears and spaketh "Thou silken adornment shall be like the Spring! Pink and shiny and new and strip'd with gray and black." and so it was said and so it was written and so it shall be.
Hail.
Do you think sometimes your imagination gets you into trouble?
Not at all. My imagination gets me into fun. If I'm keeping score my dirty imagination has gotten me in trouble around 4 times and has gotten me laid/kissed/friended/play with around 100+ times.
I'm learning more and more that my fantasies are neither unique nor horrifying. It's a nice feeling.
Why did you ask how many people deleted their formspring accounts today?
Because there was a hoax news report that said Formspring was going to out all anonymous questioners.
In Foucault/Chomsky slash, who is the top? by ellielumpesse
I don't have enough room, time or energy to answer that.
I mean in a power dynamic as complex as homosexual sex one must start by defining "top" and that in itself would take volumes. Then there is...
Chomsky, but Foucault is a power bottom.
Do anonymous questions wrack you with curiosity?
Sort of, but not really. I like them because people ask the questions that are really on their minds.
It is interesting to see what people ask anonymously. I'm enjoying it.
Why not enter into a debate on feminism? Are your ideas about feminism not important in terms of your ideas about sexuality (at least, it's a big part of the discourse on sexuality)? If not, why not? It might be an interesting debate!
I'm not well versed on Feminist theory. It was never my forte. I'm playing catch up, mostly. Plus I'm not a woman. I'm an ally and I do what I can.
If I wander into discourse on feminism I usually end up putting my foot in my mouth. Proverbially, that is.
Give us a portrait of one member of your immediate family.
Really? Eh. I'd rather not. What should I say? My father is brilliant and can't show human emotions, my mother was recently committed.
I don't like getting into personal drama.
The Marquis de Sade, Immanuel Kant or Foucault?
Oh dear, this isn't even close! Michel Foucault all the way! The History of Sexuality, Discipline and Punish, so much postmodern juiciness.
You want to watch my brain have an orgasm? The Foucault/Chomsky debate. Chomsky in English, Foucault in perfect French. Two masters of their languages agreeing to disagree and showing how civil discourse can actually lead to both parties growing and understanding.
I should really write some Foucault/Chomsky slash.
You answered another question saying that kink is about exploring pleasure and pain and your body. I agree! Given this, how DO you bottom? Will you ever allow yourself to be totally submissive? It might blow your mind.
I do bottom to certain things and to certain people (see my post on queening.) I don't know if I would ever be totally submissive to anyone, I doubt it though. I'm not really totally dominant to anyone. My play is mostly physical and sensation based with some humiliation and power games. I'm a top, not a dom.
That being said there are maybe one or two people I've met that I feel naturally submissive to. I don't know what to do with that information, but it is nice to wallow in it when I am around them.
Do you get writer's block very often? Do you get it more or less when writing erotica vs. non-erotica, fiction vs. non-fiction, etc.? What would you generally do to get rid of it?
I used to convince myself I had writer's block, then I read a few things and thought about it and realized it was just a way to sabotage my writing.
Now I just write it out. Even if I feel blocked, just sit down and start writing. If you sit and write over and over again you train yourself to just write.
Also, if I'm not feeling the creative juices flowing I will edit or rewrite things or just pick up some fragment of old story.
Basically the answer is: just write.
What was the first masturbatory fantasy you had that you recall?Please describe it in gratuitous detail.
Tough on. I tend to masturbate thinking about flashes of memories and images, not to structured fantasies.
I do remember being a tween and thinking about putting my hand down my neighbor's pants a lot. There was something about it that my young brain wanted so badly. I knew if she just let me do that, then I would feel something so amazing I would explode.
