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      What a vain thing to say about oneself. I sing in a choir, and however much they would like to classify me as soprano that can go beyond G, I cannot. I am a mezzosoprano that needs to definitely practice more if I want to go as high again. When I was younger I sung more regularly but I think now my span would be from G [below middle C] to G two octaves above. Fair enough?

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      Oh look, this question is a year old and now suddenly relevant! Yay!
      I have a new year's resolution that's also my life resolution. It's called PMA: Positive Mental Attitude. I guess I've always had a penchant for the positive energy theories out there, but PMA is not only a faster thing to say, it's also funner. For some reason I like to yell "PMA! ALL DAY!" at my friends. And stuff. :) Oh and yoga, I want to be healthier and do well in my studies obviously.

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      I'm going to give away my old band name on Guitar Hero haha, Logan Kills. I thought that was a fun name. I'd probably think of something else though if I start a ~real band now. Should be a group process!

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      A million dollars can buy a lot of things (kudos if you read that to the tune of 1 trillion dollar$ - I mean it's only a sound apart) but most importantly it can probably save a lot of lives. I would read up on what best to invest money in (sustainable stuff) and where to donate money to.
      Obviously I would use a small amount to benefit myself/family/loved ones, but I wouldn't want to spend an entire million, that'd be way too much! Ha.

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      If Greenway counts as fast food, then I choose Greenway! Otherwise Freshness Burger xD And otherwise Belgian frituur. Diversity in sauces and best frietjes obviously.

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      Hi! Yes, I own Milky Berry in white. I have not washed it in the washing machine yet - I prefer to handwash my brand dresses so I can control how long they get soaked and if something goes wrong, I can get them out as fast as possible.
      What I have done to wash it so far is this: I have first soaked the dress slowly and not too long in a mixture of cold water and a cup of vinegar, this supposedly helps the dye stay in place.
      Then I rinsed out the vinegar-water, filled a tub with cold water and a little bit of detergent for delicates... then soaked my dress in it and swiveled it around a bit, making sure the dress is cleaned everywhere. Rinse out again, then hang to dry.

      I'm told if you put your machine on cold and use the delicate cycle, it should also be okay for AP printed stuff, but since Milky Berry is known for bleeding, I didn't do this yet and I don't think I will because this method works fine. The only issue I have with handwashing my dresses is that I have to spot clean very persistent spots/marks and really have to look everything over to see if it all gets washed and if I haven't missed a spot. But so far so good, my dress is still white and hasn't bled ;D

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      I actually read up on this ;). Apparently it's "alternative rock" because this includes all my favourite genres like punk rock, pop punk, hardcore, indie, emo, and other alternative (mostly 80s 90s and 00s). But if I have to pick one out if all of them it would be (pop) punk rock.

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      Tough question. Japan Expo Paris because it's so biiiiig and there were brands and nice people. But actually it really depends on the people you're with, cause a convention in itself can get a bit boring...

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      I don't know what you expect from this, dear anonymous person!
      It's a whirlwind to be me. I run around from place to place, I change my mind a lot, I have a hard time trying to figure out what to do with my life, I get bored during the week and stressed in the weekends, I am super picky and slightly OCD.
      There's always too much to do and too little time! I'm a big fan of adventures, and having a social life, so there isn't a whole lot of me time but that runs in my family apparently.

      Also I keep messing with my hair.
      And oh, the inability to handle money. Annoying, key factor to my life. I'm a shopaholic!

      I would like to give you a bit of an idea of what it's like to be me, but I'd have to do a series of "days in my lives" and you'll have to be patient.

      Overall it's fun but chaotic. I have a lot of fun and great friends and do things that make me happy, but it's a mess because I am a mess and my house is a mess. I would love to have a neat house and a slightly neater life! I'm an obsessive freak who can not part with things, though, so who knows when that'll ever happen...

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      I used to always say Gwen Stefani cause I adore her style and creativity and individuality - I have always admired women who made their own things and people who have their personal style and don't care what people say or think about them. (I went through a skate/punk phase and looked at bands a lot - not a very fashionable time for me) Then I found inspiration from the Fruits books and online, and didn't really look to specific people anymore.

      Recently I have come to admire a lot of girls (mostly in the J-fashion world, but also people like Nicki Minaj, haha) who dress in a fun, quirky way... And aren't afraid to experiment and do things outside the box.
      It's very fun to get inspired through street snaps or blog posts! But if I have to mention one person in particular it would be Vani. She's awesome.

      I also have to say I don't only look at girls, I love getting inspiration from all over the place, from movies to tv shows to bands or people at shows to magazines to my friends! It's an organic thing.

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      I really wanted to be an artist of some kind. (Which my mother really agreed with) Then I decided physics was fun for some reason, physics and chemistry. (Which my father encouraged) And then for the longest time, I wanted to be a teacher, preferably a language teacher. When I got to high school I definitely didn't want to be a teacher in high school ;) and dropped the idea that physics was fun (sucked at it) so I became really unsure of what I wanted to be! I think activist and politician have crossed my mind, too. And professional traveller ;)

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      I want it to be Dream Sky but it's a pretty futile dream. Anyway, I'm very content with my wardrobe right now, though I hope my next purchase will be something versatile to enhance the stuff I already have, or something Classic, or a dream item off my wishlist. Who knows!

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      Oh boy. I feel bad that this question has been sitting in my inbox for 11 months. I should keep up with formspring! But I really want to answer this, so I hope it will still be of some help to someone. Here goes. Be warned,  it's my personal opinion and it's a lot. 

      Yes. I have wanted to die, actually many times, and it is no secret that I am conflicted about life as it is - and that I am not scared of dying at all. I feel this is a really weird thing to say but because of my (open) "I would rather die" stance in life, I am sometimes more scared of *not* dying at all - I guess this also ties in with my dislike of growing old. (And my trying not to grow up too much ;p I think growing old can be a good thing btw. I just don't prefer it for myself too much. )

      This is not to say that I have actively or will ever actively try to end my own life. I just need to clarify this. I feel death is a part of life and I embrace that - I think everyone should accept it as something very important and take it into account in how they live their life. Though I have come to accept death and don't fear it, doesn't mean I think one should have control over it. I think death is the same as birth: it happens, but you don't get to say when or how. I said before "I would rather die" and that stance often gets nuanced. Sometimes I'd "rather die than live", other times I'd "rather die sooner than later"... What I mean by this is yes - I have felt overwhelmed by life, I have had my serious doubts about my own life and contribution to this world, and about life as human in general. I think the human race is too big for its own good and those kind of thoughts can get a person really down. But I still don't think that death is a matter of control, and actually, much of life as we know it is beyond our control as well. That's another story. 

      There is always a big debate surrounding selfishness about wanting to die. I don't believe there is anything bad about being selfish: it's integral to being human, it's in our system. I can also understand cases of suicide. People find me weird because I understand why people would want to die or because I talk about it in a different way. Don't be ashamed of how you feel about your own principles and morals! Though I must also say talking is good, it helps shape you (and your principles). Also don't be afraid of changing. You learn from other people. It helps you grow. 

      It might be stupid to talk about this on the internet, but without trying to be preachy, I would like to tell all people who sometimes feel they want to die that they are not alone and that actually, there is nothing wrong with feeling like that. It's a personal motto of mine, told by one of my best friends that "it's hard to be happy, that is why it feels good when you are" and that because there are highs, there are lows: embrace them both. Learn to live with them. Find your own way to cope with your feelings about death. 
      It's been a long road for me and my thoughts about death, I can tell you that. But I have had time to think about them and they still change sometimes. Just as my thoughts on life. That's how it goes. 
      Try to get out of a negative spiral and see things in a positive way and you'll feel more positive as well. Easier said than done, I know, but if you do good things for yourself to help you move forward (it pays to be selfish sometimes!) you will feel so good. Really. And that's the best feeling. 

      I want to clarify that yes, I have a history with si but not because I wanted suicide. It was a coping method to deal with the lows. Since I quit, I still have my moments of not being too positive and feeling helpless, too. I just found other coping methods. It might take some time to find a 'peace of mind' like this, but it's worth it. 
      That's really all short-term advice I can give: find a (healthy) coping method, find reasons on a day to day basis to feel good about yourself (even if it's the smallest thing like "I got up and showered today", it helps), talk to someone or write things down, watch a movie to get your mind off things and go for a walk. If you feel particularly pro-active you might want to read up on how to improve life but if you are a sulky person (like me) things like books, movies and musicals really cure bad days. Retail therapy works on a very short basis: if I overindulge I feel much worse afterwards. Oh well ;) Through trial and error you'll find out what works best for you!

      In the long run all the above might help and a personal view on life (and death) also help. As well as love for yourself. (And a love for life, even if inherent, really helps too. This is the part I'm conflicted with: I often don't know what to think about life and it gets hard to always love it, but if you love yourself you must also love your life! So work on it.)

      In the end: you are the person you have to live with every day, you are the only person to know how you feel, and you need to be happy with yourself first and foremost. Live for you. Do things for you. Be happy for you. 
      (If you get to a place where you are fully content of you, then you are in a place to start helping other people and/or doing things for them but you have to love yourself first and foremost.) That's the best advice I can ever give to people and myself at times when I forget. Love yourself, embrace who you are, live for you. If you do that, you can do anything - get through the hard times and live the good times. 

      Dear whomever reading this and feeling like they need someone to listen: I would love to lend my shoulder to you. I have a very specific view on life so this is my warning: I can be blunt but I have my reasons. If you can take that, I would be happy to listen to you and/or give advice. You know where to reach me. 

      I hope my view on things have helped a bit, and if anyone wants to discuss things some more, feel free!

      Much love.  

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      I am 23 right now and I feel younger, most of the time because I'm just way too invested in very 'childish' things ;) That is not to say I am immature... Though sometimes I can be. Haha.
      It also helps that I am the youngest in my family and that Muffin is a few years older than I am - I feel I am allowed to be the crazy youngin.
      However I've always been among the oldest of my class and subsequently my friends, which sometimes makes me feel right at home and I forget I'm not 20 - and other times makes me feel way old because obviously there are differences in attitude and experience.

      So I guess it really depends on the circumstance. :)

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      Yes! It used to never work, but I am actually typing this from my phone! Wheeeeee :)

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      Verrrrry ticklish!! I don't like when my feet get tickled, it gives me an odd sensation in the head, like a mini-headache. Weird!!

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      I've had a wasp in my mouth! Luckily it also flew right out when I started screaming. I've been stung by one, but it's been a while so let's hope that's not going to happen again o_o

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      No, I know this must sound really stupid but I kind of wanted to when I was younger [say, 13] because growing up in the Netherlands you kind of see it all around you and it makes you think... I was apparently sane enough to think "let's wait a while, but when I'm older I'm sooo going to smoke weed" or something. But then I decided it was a very dumb thing to think and do, so I never actually did it.

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