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Know stuff about vintage clothing, fashion, makeup/hair and relationships. Know next to nothing about men.

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      If this is an April Fools thing, it has to be the most poorly executed "joke" in the history of social media. It's confusing and therefore NOT FUNNY.

      If Formspring really IS shutting down, then I guess I will have to just spend the 0.000001% of time that WOULD have been spent on Formspring and go back to my usual activity of curating the hottest festival fashions in my pinterest board. #clotheschella

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      holy hell i'm sorry for the late response. i am 28! and thank you for the compliment :) i seriously feel like ive had many past lives.

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      Thanks for the kind words.

      As for the coffee curdling - I never have experienced that but I rarely drink coffee. When I DO drink it, I order it as a "cafe au lait" (coffee with steamed milk) with soy. Maybe that has something to do with it not curdling?

      I know very little about this subject sorry to disappoint.

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      I don't mind answering this on here at all.

      My depression stems from my anxiety and OCD. Not the kind of trendy, self-diagnosed "I'm such a clean freak" OCD. The ugly shit - the intrusive thought patterns, the compulsive rituals, the repetitive checking and re-checking shit. It's something that comes in waves for me. Sometimes I feel completely fine for months at a time. Other times, I'm downward spiraling for weeks deeper and deeper into it. The depression kicks in during these spirals when I'm feeling severely isolated and doomsday-ish. I can't really pin-point one certain thing that I get depressed about because its more of an all-encompassing issue. It feels like my whole LIFE is at stake. These thoughts are all completely self-induced and irrational. In hindsight, I know how illogical it is to feel this way but when I'm in it, nobody can console or try to "cheer me up." I find that most people who have never dealt with depression don't realize that it isn't comparable with "having a bad day" that can be cured with the help of a hug and shoulder to lean on.

      I've tried several things which have significantly helped or worsened the cycle:

      Made Worse:
      1. Drinking alone
      2. Drinking with others
      3. (Drinking period, okay?)
      4. Partying
      5. Ignoring responsibilities in attempts to be "hedonistic"

      Helped:
      1. Cognitive behavioral therapy (with a shrink who specializes in your area of trouble)
      2. Journaling
      3. Refraining from ALL booze consumption
      4. Excercize!!!
      5. Connecting with any form of spirituality you may believe in
      6. Talking to others who suffer from the same
      7. Medication

      I would suggest taking meds as a last resort option. I am still on Effexor and while it helps tremendously with my anxiety and depression, it has side effects that I hate (which I don't want to describe on here - I'll tell you in person) and withdrawal symptoms that are off the charts. Had I known about this prior to taking it, I probably wouldn't have.

      Talking about my anxiety/depression with others only helps me when the people I choose to talk to refrain from giving me any unsolicited advice, solutions, etc. Sometimes we all just need someone who can be a good listener (which unfortunately, you might only find in a therapist). Particularly those who know how to be an effective "active listener" could be your godsend. Active listening can help you (as the speaker) delve deep into yourself and your emotions like peeling off the layers of an onion. Ultimately, it's purpose is aimed at helping you find your own solution OR simply feeling ACCEPTED. There's more power in that than most of us realize.

      Anyway, I hope this helps. I'm here if you need.

    8. Selena Cruz

      HYPOTHETICALLY - if you were shrunk to 1 cm tall and I had to swallow you whole, i would first transform you into a tiny and whimsical cartoon sheep, dressed up in a Jesus costume with wheels for hooves. But that still wouldn't be as fucking weird as this questions is.

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      oh my god i JUST had the most awful experience with them. Here goes:

      While I went to make a purchase, one of their (extremely rude) cashiers hastily swiped my card three times for just the one purchase. When I interrupted and asked why she did that, she blew me off and told me it would only be charged once for some reason that she couldn't really explain. Sure enough, I was charged more than once - twice actually. I went into the store and told them about the error, with my bank statement showing proof.

      I waited at the counter for (i'm not exaggerating) 20 minutes before a "manager" came up to try to tell me that it probably wasn't really charged twice because their store would have recognized the error before it ever hit my bank account. (Lie #1) We went back and forth for another 20 minutes where she did basically everything BUT accuse me of lying about it to try to get money back. I persisted, explained, showed proof.

      Finally, I had to fill out some papers, get my bank involved bla bla bla. After the paperwork was submitted they said it would take 2 weeks, at most, to see the refund back in my account. (Lie #2) Ummm nope! THREE weeks later, I finally got a phone number to someone in their corporate office who handles these things. By this time, it was the fifth imbecile I had to argue with and explain my story to. Yada, yada, yada... My initial purchase was made in late March. I just got my refund back YESTERDAY.

      Moral of the story: Use cash.

      No I'm totally kidding!!! But for real, I rarely shopped there before this happened and now it will be even less. I can't commit to saying that I'll never shop there again because like Madeline, I am le weak.

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      It depends on how it's going to be consumed. I will explain:

      If it is milk to go in my cereal, any "milk" or type of milk will do. I like to get my cereal wet, but I never drink the milk.

      If it's to go in my coffee, I prefer soy but I have actually never tried almond, coconut or rice in my coffee. Not sure how that would taste.

      If it's for my smoothie, I like coconut milk.

      None of these milks would EVER be drank alone.

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      Hi the one,

      I took your peanut butter comment as an opportunity to turn it into a poor me/sarcastic/shit-talking way to be amusing. I did assume that it was meant light-hearted and I'm sorry that I made you wonder whether or not I was really offended by it. I like to exaggerate. But for the record, I was not at all bothered by you saying so.

      P.S. "Creamy" Trader Joe's PB is too runny.

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      Hey thanks for saying that - very nice of you!

      I simply don't have the will-power/desire to "not eat." And I find it completely useless to deny myself of a craving like EATING. I have a gluttonous appetite so don't get me wrong, I eat junk food too at times. But that usually shows up in the form of something highly buttery and homemade. (Like cinnamon rolls.)

    14. Selena Cruz

      Let's see...

      1. Spicy Italian Chicken with green and kalmata olives
      2. Chicken posole
      3. Meatloaf & brussel sprouts

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      Lettuce, Cabbage, Kale
      Broccoli, Carrots, Asparagus, Brussel Sprouts
      Apples, Strawberries, Lemons, Oranges
      Green & Kalmata Olives, Mixed Cheeses, Cream Cheese
      Chicken Breast, Ground Chicken
      Peanut Butter, Jelly, Deli Meat, Bread, Tortillas
      Box of white wine

    16. Selena Cruz

      Heck yeah. Jersey Shore & Wife Swap! I love that shit.

    17. Selena Cruz

      Usually I spend Saturday nights inside watching movies, cooking and passing out by midnight. But occasionally, I'll make an appearance at my local watering hole.

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      i can kindaaaa sing the blues like a mo fo. and mariachi songs. totally serious.

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      hmmm.... vintage-inspired, grunge, rock and roll, gypsy - not always at the same time

Selena Cruz’s Bio

Encinitas, CA

www.thesirenofmod.com

I was born and raised in southern California. I like cooking fine meals, buying my clothes at thrift stores, changing my hair color, taking pictures, writing and blogging.