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Most people experience some anxiety in social situations like public speaking or meeting new people. However, for others it can lead to avoiding certain situations and cause marked anxiety. Often this stems from fear of harsh judgment from others and undervaluing of the self. Here are a few ways to cope with social anxiety:
1) Write down your fears about being with people and see if they are realistic. Are you possibly fearing the worst possible scenario? Are there other positive possibilities you can think of?
2) Practice evenly paced diaphragmatic breathing and remember the anxiety will pass.
3) Don't overwhelm yourself. Some situations will provoke more anxiety than others. Attend functions that may evoke some anxiety and as you cope with those, go to other functions that may be a bit more difficult.
4) Remember that avoidance can often make anxiety worse because we don't have a chance to prove our fears wrong.
If your social anxiety is overwhelming and you would like additional support, make an appointment with a therapist who can work with you more in depth. -
Losing a job is certainly depressing and our self-esteem can really take a hit. It's important to do things that make you feel good about your self. The first is to continue applying for other jobs. This can be overwhelming, but the prospect of no job in the future can be a real downer. Use your spare time to engage in fun, healthy activities. Take that dance class you've always thought about or volunteer a couple hours a week doing something you enjoy. Depression can feed off boredom. Getting out also gives you the added bonus of networking and finding more job opportunities.
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Incarceration of a spouse effects the family dynamic dramatically due to physical distance, changes in emotional support systems, income levels and living arrangements. However, research suggests female partners become more independent and self-sufficient when their loved one is incarcerated. Nonetheless, reentry is a difficult process for the ex-offender and their families.
Reconnecting will involve dealing with many pragmatic issues, as well as your emotional ones. Finding support through family, friends and community services will help adjusting to reentry. It's important to be mindful of the challenges ahead and not expect things to magically be as they used to. Allow time for the family to re-adjust. Communicate openly and honestly with your spouse about feelings of relief, excitement, resentment and fear. Plan some relaxing activities for the two of you, like a picnic or even a walk. Use the skills and strengths that got you two through the incarceration and utilize any community services in your area for added support.
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Marriage and Family Therapist Intern
