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Well, I've had my wisdom teeth taken out.
But I imagine, gentle reader, that you are inquiring about gender-related surgeries. At the moment (March 2010), I have not. I do, however, have chest reconstruction surgery planned for May! Two quick months away. -
Oh man. This is an epic question.
Wake up early without an alarm, and feeling rested and ready.
Going to the gym (or ballpark, or whatever) and having a better workout than usual, one where you feel connected to your body and you push your limits.
Your iPod or the radio plays all the right songs, like a soundtrack following you through the day.
Productivity in work has to be a part of it. Reading something theoretically rich and challenging, and then producing something equally formidable. Something worthy of your time, worthy of a second look, of revising and improving and committing time to. Most importantly, something that makes the world a little better, even if it's just a tiny bit. Even just for today.
The perfect cup of coffee. Smooth, simple finish. Single origin. Already the right temperature when you get it, so that you don't have to wait for it to cool first.
The company of good friends. Physical interaction (hugs, etc). Being made to laugh.
Sunshine. Maybe drinking that coffee, while writing that work, while even listening to that iPod, while sitting in the sun. Those moments are the richest. -
Good question(s).
For me at least, queer is about politics and a way of living in the world. Transguy is about my body. Neither of those necessarily say anything about who I date.
My primary identity is queer. I think of it much less as a sexual orientation and much more as an orientation to the rest of the world; it's a sensibility of resistance and difference to the normative expectations and conforming pressures of larger society, which governs my thoughts and interpretations and interactions. Being queer is fundamental to my self-understanding.
I also identify as transgender or FTM. Again, my primary lens is queer, but I'm not really sure where the boundaries of one start and the next begin. My trans identity is an extension of my queer identity; without being queer, which gives me a willingness (and eagerness) to question my situatedness and constraints, I wouldn't have the language or tools to process and engage with myself about gender and body.
And a final thought about dating: one of the biggest lessons (need a better word) I've taken from my experiences as a trans person thus far is that the categories or labels of "men" and "women" are just fundamentally insufficient. So I don't know that I can really answer that question as to who I date. Who makes a man? A trans person? I date people to whom I'm attracted. People who are queer are usually those to whom I'm attracted, on a variety of levels.
Thanks for asking.
-Logan
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queer transguy. political scientist. blogger-wannabe.
