What is your opinion on arranged marriage. Is there still a place for it in the twenty-first century? Tell me. [27]
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Only if the people actually in the intended marriage consent to it.
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arranged marriage is a custom practiced here long time ago. well, maybe some part of country still practice this as part of their culture. As for me, i don't like the idea behind it. I mean, i want to experience how to fall in love with mr. right guy and experience TRUE LOVE as well (>.<)
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Well, in my culture, arranged marriages are the traditional way to go. Although now Indians are more 'modern' and independent - which is why love marriages are more common than ever.
And if you look at the statistics, more couples who had a love marriage get divorced than arranged couples.
In conclusion, there's no definite place for arranged marriage. It's the person's choice what they want to do with their life. -
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You know, there are times I really think arranged marriages would be WAY less stressful than dating life. But that might just be me.
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I don't feel like I have the right to an opinion on this since I'd be judging someone else's culture. From personal experience, I've seen them work beautifully and I've also seen one constantly be the thorn in a friend's side.
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If people still do that, then it's not my place to judge what they do. I'm not too keen to the idea of my parents picking someone out for ME though. I want to be able to pick a man who I'll like and have my parents trust me enough to do that.
Trust is a key factor in arranged marriage. -
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Seeing this question is weird because a couple of weeks ago I found out one of my friends had arranged marriage since I last saw her. It was incredibly shocking, because she's barely 18 and I never thought her parents were that traditional. I couldn't even believe it at first. So it's something I had to think about.
My friend talked to the guy on Skype and stuff and was allowed to choose whether to do it or not. Still, I didn't think she'd agree to something like that, ever.. Anyway, I think it can work for some people. Love is something you choose to do in many ways. I personally think it's pretty crazy, but it can work. If people want to do that, I get it. -
backliketupac's responses are protected.
If we really think about it, aren't all marriages arranged? It is deliberate, you don't really just wake up one day and just get married. And even if it were so, you would still have to prepare even at the last minute.
But if we say arranged marriages meaning, forced marriages, I don't really understand much about the culture aside from:
1. Some beliefs say that women are objects to be sold and traded for money, prestige, power, etc
2. Some beliefs say that they have to maintain their status and money in life so they intermarry cousins, siblings or even uncles and aunts (whoa)
3. Some beliefs believe too much in the future of the couple and their grandchildren that they trade the feelings and capacity of the groom and bride to decide for themselves whom to marry
4. The three views above may overlap each other or be independent of each other or get all mixed up
While I don't agree with what is stated above, I decided to be a loving father to my kids and guide them to the way they should go until they grow up enough to marry someone. And because I know my kids are of sound character, I trust them that they will make the decision to choose the best that God has in store for them while I cheer, encourage and provide advise on the sidelines. :)
Arranged, rearranged, or deranged...it really doesn't matter. Society puts too many expectations on the institution of marriage. Just be happy if you find someone who wants to share their life with you.
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I don't really have a strong opinion on arranged marriages. I feel that if both parties are okay with it, then it's fine. It's their marriage, not mine. It would suck if they don't want to and they were forced to be married. Also, arranged marriages stay married a lot longer than modern marriages.
I do think that there are places for it in this day.
If we're talking about people raised from childhood to be married to a particular person, then no. It's servitude to the parents of both families. It's treating your child like livestock, or some stock in a merger. As someone who spent his early childhood trying to please fanatics, I can tell you that there is no choice for a child whose parents have already settled on a specific mate for them. That kid is most likely going to do whatever pleases the family, regardless of what he she may really want. I respect diversity of culture, but I respect basic human self-determination more. If I had gone down the path my mother laid out for me, I'd probably be in a compound somewhere.
Arranged marriages are fine, forced marriages are not.
Nope
people should be free to marry whoever they want
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