Someone on Formspring said I "seem very judgmental of others". Be brutally honest: would you say that's true? I'd like to know if my responses are coming off like that... [13]
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O.O WTHell!
No way. You've been nothing but sensible in your answers Lou.
I don't know why anyone would say such a thing. Just ignore them because from my perspective if you were such a person I wouldn't have been friends with you :) -
A couple things to remember -
We're all judgmental to some degree or another. It's completely inescapable.
It's often used as a grossly generalized insult, and it's also a word that gets thrown around a lot without people knowing the actual meaning of (like "selfish" and "ignorance"). I have difficulty finding a good place to use the word myself since it's been abused so often, and the definition I've found for it doesn't make being judgmental to some degree actually sound that bad.
People will interpret things in an extreme manner to back their argument. There is no reality, only perception, so even if someone sees you as being judgmental in the truest definition of the word, that does not make their word law. Simply because someone thinks you're judgmental does not mean you actually are.
You can't give into hostile behaviour, even if someone is "right" about something. Once you give into hostile behaviour, you've rewarded their hostility by giving in. Any statement where a person says they'll stop giving you a hard time if you were to change is a LIE. Why would someone stop doing something that works?
I personally haven't seen anything that would cause me to think that you're very judgmental. I know you've made generalizations about certain groups of people on the rare occasion in a Formspring answer that might bug a rare few individuals, but nothing is coming to mind right now. I'm also talking about a might or a maybe for something I can't remember, so I wouldn't consider it important.
However, I don't think this is a subject where you should be gaining the opinion of people who're following you on Formspring. It's nice to know that you value and trust my opinion on certain subjects, but if you're concerned about the possibility of conditioning a tiny portion of your personality, I think the only person who's opinion ranks high enough in this occasion is your wife. -
I've never gotten that sense from you. But really, if you were being judgemental of others, what's wrong with that? We are judgemental beings. Whoever said that is in denial that they ever judge others.
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You aren't judgmental at all, not in my opinion anyway. I hope your road trip home goes well :)
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Don't take it to close and don't think too much about it. Those people who said that, judged you as well, so it's a bit ironic in some way.
And well - it is FORMSPRING! People tell other people what they wanna make other believe they are, by giving certain answers. So of course you judge a bit, it is called "first impression."
But that doesn't mean that that first impression can be changed. I don't believe you are that judgemental. I think you are curious to see that is behind those answers people give on formspring, and that's a great thing. :)
And by your answers - it's your point of view. We all have a way of viewing the world, and those who think you are judgemental, they have just misunderstood you or are viewing the world in another light.
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No not at all!!!!! You are very open minded and supportive of others
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