That moment has come and gone - it's no longer a fear, it's just something that happens from time to time. I do try and keep that in mind when posting stuff to Facebook or Twitter but at the end of the day I just accept that things I wrote back then are what they are and I'm not going to kick my own arse for not having the hindsight I now have.

There are a couple of design elements: the prominence of comments and discussion in an article, whether comments are displayed in ascending or descending order, linear vs nested design, user profiles and gravatars, timeframe for closing discussion ... that last point is a particular bugbear for me; too many times I've submitted comments on a news article just to have it never see the light of day. Absolute waste of time. If a media organisation has a policy on only moderating and approving comments within the first 12 hours of publishing an article than a) state that; and/or b) close the comments. Wasting my time does not endear me to them.

8 - and I have no idea why. I just like it. It's symmetrical, on two axes (big plus for me), it's a binary number (1, 2, 4, 8), also many of the houses I've lived in have something to do with 8 ... 8, 18, 16 (8x2) etc. It just seems to feature prominently in my life.

I don't think so. Christians - especially fundamentalists - can be very hard to have a conversation with, and they're awfully judgemental. Remember they consider you a sinner, a heathen, a lost soul that must be converted. How is that any basis for dialogue?

He's ok, but I wouldn't turn gay for him.

Depends on the cat - it's a cute little cuddly kitten then it's ok. The sensation of a cat's tongue on your skin is wierd!

Putting aside physical disabilities for a second, I read an interesting figure in a book a few months ago that one doctor a month in the UK takes their own life due to depression or other mental illness. As for your question - honestly I don't know enough about medical practice but I suspect there would be prejudices and barriers for disabled people that either discourages them or actively pushes them out of a career as a doctor or other specialist medical careers.

Quite possibly. It's just good sense I think. It will only undermine the relationship if the couple let it. Marriage is a contract and like all good contracts it's primary purpose is to clarify and remove ambiguity rather than be an instrument of enforcement.

I regularly have vivid dreams. I love dreams - it's what I do when I'm not awake: crazy adventures to impossible places with old friends and new. I don't analyse dreams - they mean nothing - but I do try to figure out what recent experiences influence my dreams. Obviously last night's dream about New Zealand was largely influenced by the fact I'm, er, currently in New Zealand. I very rarely have the same dream twice. Sometimes there are things shared across dreams or I'll remember a dream in a dream like an intersection of stories. They can be a lot of fun. I don't often kill people in my dreams but it does happen.

I don't kill roaches - they smell too bad. Just make sure you don't let garden waste pile up. They love wet cardboard too so basically just keep indoors and outdoors clean and tidy!

Oh is this one of my Twitter Lists thing? Gah they're such a pain to set up and maintain I gave up before I finished it. Should probably just delete them before people get upset!

Hostel. I'm only on speaking terms with one of my parents. I haven't spoken to my mother in three years since I left the religious cult my family was in (and mostly still are).

I'd prefer not to disclose the actual name on the Internet but I probably will when I write and publish my book next year. Just an Australian-based global (but relatively small) Christian Pentecostal revival church.

Danny Carey, drummer for Tool. He's such a cool, awesome, talented and dedicated guy. Wicked drummer.

It's not an obsession I've personal observed but it is one I admit has been popularised by media and films so I'm not sure to what extent it's a culture-wide obsession. I'm in a happy relationship with a very strong, confident and assertive woman. We share responsibilities and decision-making equally and it works beautifully. I guess some men would be intimidated by such women ... they might take it as a slight on their manliness. If you look at the relationship between the fictional character Dexter in the TV series of the same name with the 'damaged' woman Rita you can see the 'benefits' of those flaws to Dexter initially in how he can manipulate and lie and treat her as second-place to his selfish needs. It's a convenience and power thing. Whereas handling someone like his adoptive sister Debra is much more difficult because she doesn't take any shit from anyone. Of course I'm not psychologist so I can't respond authoritatively on this question.

I am today. In a ridiculously good mood. Otherwise though I can be a bit up and down, even though I consider myself to have 'recovered' from depression. I'm still a bit lost ... trying to make the transition from my life in the cult to my new life, discovering my true nature, my personal values and finding meaning in this existence ... particularly as I believe in the importance of people making a meaningful, substantial positive impact on the plight of humanity. But the short answer is "Yes" I am happy.

Aw thanks that's so nice. I'll be back! It's just that I've lived in Canberra my whole life because the cult I left in 2008 forbade people relocating to other places so now that I'm free of that I want to try living somewhere else. We couldn't decide between Sydney and Melbourne so decided seeing you don't need a work visa to go to NZ we'll just go there! We will come back to Canberra though as Jenny would like to be near her family who she's close to.

Yep I love pasta - I'm from Italian heritage on my mother's side and a love of pasta is in my genes. I bought myself a pasta machine for last Christmas and make my own spaghetti, fettuccine and lasagne sheets (which are so much tastier and easier to use than store-bought dried sheets).

It's complicated :)

I'm not sure what you mean by "cool" but no I don't think so. I'm a quiet, shy introvert. I know I'm good at my job and I don't pretend to be something I'm not. I find crowds intimidating and prefer to retreat to somewhere safe. I'm not at all cool.