I am in high school and used to be in touch with a sister at school. We no longer talk, but I find it very difficult to get her off my mind and always find myself tempted to talk to her on the phone or text her. Any advice to avoid talking until marriage
As salam alakom dear believer in Islam
May Allah (SWT) strengthen your belief further and make you like Youssef (pbuh). The advice given above is the solution: Fast, Read Quran, Pray extra Nafl, seek Patience and remember Death. As Allah (SWT) says in the Quran, seek support through patience and prayer and indeed it is difficult except for those who fear "have khushoo" in Allah, who remember their return to their Lord, Al-Baqarah (45-46). It is important to set for your self some life goals, a clear mission for your life, clarify your future plans and get busy accomplishing them through schooling, work, knowledge, community services, and being a role model Muslim and that will keep you away from shaytan's whispers and your own desires. If you have not brought up the topic with your parents, you should and you should plan on proposing to the family of the sister in a couple of years inshaa Allah or once you feel you are more mature. Seeking advice from a mentor or life coach has worked well with similar cases in the past, and Allah (SWT) is the protector and guide, and the all knowing. --- Ayman
