i think the standards of being asian is harder than that of being gay. typically, being gay has this notion that you have to be extremely good looking with an adonis type body and a good taste in fashion. those are always easily accessible and can be altered at anytime. but with being asian, there is this stigma that you have to be extremely intelligent. by keeping that in mind, it carves the path for your future already because asians are supposedly geared toward prestigious jobs. the bad thing is that, if you fail at trying to accomplish this, then you completely wasted all that time. you are pushed to study and do so well in school that it just adds more stress and can ruin your whole educational career. you know what i mean??