Ask me shit
If you could live for a year as the opposite gender, what would be the multitude of things you would do?
I would set the following trends so that when I turn back into a girl, guys will be a bit more awesome:
NOT wear my pants belted around the knees
buy tampons for a girl
shower often and wear deoderant, but not be obsessed with how I look
be nice but not a doormat
funny but not a douche
I wouldn't get drunk and start fights over diddly squat
wear whatever smell it is that my friend (guy) wears because it smells AMAZINGGG and not enough guys smell like that
pretty much be an awesome guy so girls don't lose hope and settle for losers
and because I can't resist I would also take advantage of the fact that I can pee standing up and cut a lot of bathroom time off my schedule, enjoy not having my period for a year, I would do a happy dance because I don't have to fight a bajillion pyscho female hormones trying to turn me into a vindictive shark.
What's your opinion on this prison in Austria? (It holds 205 prisoners) http://d24w6bsrhbeh9d.cloudfront.net/photo/1948583_700b_v1.jpg
Reminds me of images of Norwegian and Dutch prisons!
Basically, these kind of prisons are set out to actually change the people who live there. Instead of 'we're going to stagnate the shit out of you' for 30 years, this environment will allow change in a positive way and rest assured, not every criminal or every crime gets this kind of treatment.
I've noticed a lot of people replying in awe and disgust to these kind of images, but I wonder, if they watch the average episode of 'Locked up Abroad', do they think every single prison in that country will be terrible like that as well?
Were you shy around Adam when you guys first started to like each other? I have a thing with this guy, and we've hung out once (with some of his friends) and I was really nervous. Were hanging out again soon, how do I get over my nerves and not be shy?
Of course, feeling shy is natural. Just try to relax and remember he is nervous too!
Try hanging out around YOUR friends. You'll naturally be a little more at ease with them around and it will give you the opportunity to come out of your shell a little more (just don't ignore him).
Also, let him see you in your element. What are you good at? What do you feel confident in? Your charisma will shine through!
Try hanging out in a more intimate environment if you're not that comfortable in public. Try not making a habit out of going to the movies because you don't really get any one on one time. Though, I don't suggest watching a movie at home either. To me, this was one of the most nerve-racking situations. Go somewhere or plan something where you're actually doing something, so you don't feel as much pressure to keep the conversation going.
This may sound silly, but wear your favourite outfit. I know some girls buy new outfits for dates, but I suggest going with something you know you look great in and are familiar with. If you feel beauty, it will show!
Avoid caffeine before you hangout, for it will only add to your nerves. If you're an avid coffee drinker, like myself, switch to herbal tea or decaf the day of.
Whenever I was feeling particularly nervous before seeing Adam, I would take a hot bath to calm myself down, so this may be something you want to try.
Find something you can connect over. Could be music, movies, politics, religion--whatever!
Try to just be yourself. You're a likable person without having to try!
Can two people who were previously in a relationship with each other ever be just friends again? Does keeping in contact always mean that at least one party still has feelings for the other?
No, they can't, and yes, it absolutely means that either one person, or both people do have feelings for each other.
The main reason why most people want to remain friends after they break up is so they can keep the change of something happening again, or at least the thought of having a chance again open.
I've had way too many problems trying to be friends with my ex's, and I've had way too many problems by girlfriends having ex's as friends.
Trying to have an ex as friend for me has led to so many people getting mad. EVERY girlfriend I've had, without exception has disliked me having a friend as an ex, even if they didn't say it up front. All of my ex's without exception, have disliked my girlfriends, even if they didn't say it up front. All of my ex's boyfriends have disliked me, without exception, even if they didn't say it up front. All of my girlfriends ex boyfriends have disliked me, without exception, even if they didn't say it up front. This has led to A LOT of people trying to sabotage ongoing relationships, and since there's someone there, waiting in the wings, it gives the person in the realatiosnhip a feeling that they have a plan B person waiting there for them.
What that means is that the people in a relationship feel they should be allowed to act irresponsible and get away with it, or they'll break up and instantly find a relationship. That's definitely a cruel thing to do, and a terrible way to treat the relationship, as when people get away with acting irresponsible, they start to become angry, feeling that they're entitled to more than the other person, especially since they got away with making an irresponsible threat. This means that if your partner has an ex waiting for them, they'll get angry no matter what the other person does.
I hate hearing my ex's talk when I've essentially pretended to be their friend. They'll either talk about how great their boyfriend is. The guy is somehow better than me? Then why the hell do I even need to talk to her? Or she'll complain that he's a loser. I got replaced by an idiot? Then why do I even need to be there? That sounds like her problem, not mine.
I also hate hearing girlfriends talk about ex's. To sum it up in short, if they had finished everything up with their ex, that ex wouldn't be coming up. I try to say only the absolute minimum I need to say about my ex's to a girlfriend. I HATE hearing about their ex's. He's a loser? Then DITCH HIM! Really, he's so great? Then why the hell are you talking to me, and not with him?
Having an ex as a friend makes A LOT of people needlessly angry. And why? So someone in a relationship can say "Let me get angry and treat you like trash, or else I'll replace you with someone else who will."
Not having an ex in your life is a way to say that your next relationship is important, and that BOTH people in the relationship have equal value. Keeping an ex around is to place all the importance on yourself, and make yourself completely unhappy by surrounding yourself with people who you'll just make mad trying to put the importance of the relationship on yourself, and making yourself completely angry in the process. It's absolutely useless.
If you care about your current relationship, or want to be set up in a good position to create a new good relationship DO NOT have an ex if your life. Simply because your ex isn't there DOES NOT mean they're a band person, and in fact it's the best way to keep yourself from hating them. The NICEST thing to do for an ex is to let them go so they can move on in their life.
I've gotten to the point where if a girl tells me she has an ex in her life, then she's simply not the right person for me. I've NEVER had a good experience by keeping an ex in my life, and I've NEVER had a good relationship with a girlfriend who kept an ex in her life. All my good relationships were ex free. I've also never heard of anyone in a successful long-term relationship or marriage having an ex in their life.
What's a major turn off on the opposite sex?
I'll list a few:
1) if a guy wants sex/sexual things instantly. They should simply be in it for YOU as a person, and not for the sex. I'm not the easy sort who has sex instantly, I want to of been with that person for a while, otherwise they could just fuck off once they get what they want.
2) if they tell me they like me when I barely know them and we've hardly spoken. It annoys me so much because I know it's not true.
3) if they smoke & do drugs. I mean, if I really liked someone I'd put up with the smoking but try to get them to quit. As for drugs, I just don't agree with it.
4) arrogance. I hate guys who are overconfident and think they can get any girl.
5) guys who are shallow. And won't care about personality, just how big a girls tits are.
6) the obvious things- bad breath, smelly, not taking pride in appearance etc.
7) if they think eating your face of is a kiss xD
What memories come to mind when you think about you and I?
prettty much my whole childhood..
Watching the nightmare before christmas.
Canada olympic birthday I cant really remember hahah
ummm alooot of swimingg
swing in your front yard.
That scary cow in your kitchen..
Blasting the song "Im blue" In your house alll theee timeeeee.
Watching some movie with mary kate and ashley?
lmao pretty much everything...
What do you think your life would be like RIGHT NOW if I hadn't been in it?
Terrible! Lonely, miserable. I wouldn't have anything to look forward to! Life without love is like life without the light. You can still survive, but it's cold and dark, and it's hard to find your way. And everything is the same. There's no colour. You are the colour in my life :) <3
[2/2] I'm told I have a beautiful curvy body, but I know I'm over weight. I see all these photos of beautiful curvy women and I think why not me? It's just so heartbreaking for me and I'm not sure what to do.. :(
According to my BMI I'm considered overweight too, but that doesn't mean I don't have beautiful curves! If people are telling you this, it's because it's TRUE. It breaks my heart to hear that you can find other curvy woman beautiful, but you can't see your own beauty! I may not know what you look like but I do know that you are beautiful in your OWN way.
I applaud you for recognizing that you're not happy with the way you look and for trying to do something to change it, but it is quite plain that you don't have a healthy relationship with your self image. Making improvements is not about attacking yourself and tirelessly dieting to look a certain way, it's loving yourself as is and seeing that there is room for improvement with your health. Last year I was nearing 200 pounds, yet I felt just as beautiful then as I do now. When I decided to shed some of the weight it was so I could have more energy and be healthy, NOT to look like anyone else.
If you truly want to lose weight, do it for the RIGHT reasons. Eat healthy and exersise because it's GOOD for your body. Do not use self-loathing as a motivator, because you will just give up and feel even worse about yourself.
When you look in the mirror, look for the things that are beautiful, it could be the smallest thing like the way your eyes catch the light or the feminine curve of your waist. I may not be streamlined and perfect, but when I look in the mirror I don't see flaws I see characteristics that make me all the more interesting.
Please, try to make peace with your body. If you feel beautiful, you will exude beauty and if you love yourself you will be more motivated to treat your body right.
Requested: If your fave celeb was chained to you bed, what would you do?
I would politely ask "what the fuck are you doing?" wherein Johnny Depp would reply with, "what would you like me to do?" and then I would probably say something like "oh you." And then wink. Winking always insinuates something sexy or secretive. In this case it may be both. He'll know what it means.
I wanted to ask you a question on your Thinspo blog but I don't think you have your ask open :P I want to lose weight...but I'm afraid that even when I've reached my goal weight, that I still won't look good enough and that I'll suffer from an ED advice?
Before you lose weight, I think you really need to work on your relationship with yourself. Make that priority. Because you're right, if you are waiting to be thinner to love yourself it WON'T be enough, because you don't love yourself unconditionally. You need to love yourself NOW, not after you reach your goal weight, there can be no conditions to accepting who you are.
If you really feel that you want to move forward with your weight loss, remind yourself that you are beautiful right now, as you are. Make an effort to point out all the things you love about yourself when you look in the mirror. I can't stress enough the importance of positive thoughts. Negativity is poison. You keep sending hurtful words to your brain and you're going to believe them and live them. There's nothing wrong with wanting to change something about ourselves that we have the power to change, you don't blame a girl for dying her hair do you? BUT, you cannot rely on change to make you feel beautiful!!!
I wish you the best of luck! You are just as beautiful now as you would be thinner, remember that! <3