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We are getting on great thanks :) i don't see her as much as i would hope to and sometimes when we are both online at the same time we don't get to spend such quality time together because one of us in ill/tired/pissy/distracted etc. But i think that's the same with any online relationship. The important thing is that we are still there for each other, we still love and care for each other, we are still supportive of each other and i believe that we always will.
When meeting a potential sub for a first meeting, and a time is set up and I (Dom) say a different time and he corrects it what should the Doms response. Mind you he is looking for a non sexual relationship and get to know one another and I be his superior.... (question cuts off)
As i've said before it is very difficult for me to give advice to others on how to run their BDSM relationships because there's such a huge variety of them. But in this case my general thoughts would be that since the two of you are not in any kind of relationship at all yet, keep things simple, don't expect him to mindlessly obey your every command, especially if you change your original agreement and see where things go. Later you can set rules about the level of obedience you expect.
Why don't you drive?
A few reasons: firstly my parents never had a car when i was growing up (though my Dad can drive but hasn't for years and years) so i got used to walking or taking a bus or train. Therefore it wasn't automatic for me to rush out and take my driving test when i was 17. Since then i have always lived close to town with a good bus service and a direct train line to London and other major towns and i have always worked near my house, so again no real need to learn to drive. Now i don't really have the time to learn, though once the children are older and at school, who knows....?
I would love to see blogs written by Masters like yours who somehow micromanage everything you do ESPECIALLY when the family includes kids~i find it almost unbelievable that couls happen on a 24/7 basis
i think you'd be surprised what goes on behind closed doors in some houses! It isn't that difficult to run a 24/7 M/s relationship with children if both parties are commited. And i too would like to see more decent blogs written by Dom/mes but i think there's less need for them to blog than for subs, they get less out of it, so i don't really see it happening. However, check out my blogroll in the sidebar for some excellent Dom/me blogs.
Hi Libby just want to say thank you I have enjoyed your blog so much that you have inspired me to start my own. My question has to do with your blog. How did you set it up so that your blobs are in panels like that.
i just looked for a template/ blog skin that already had that feature! Sorry, i'm not very good on the computer so i wouldn't be able to modify another template to have the front page like this, but i think there's several versions of this design available - just google :)
Hi Libby, I was wondering if your Sir has rules with regards to your appearance, i.e. clothes and hair style. Can you go to the hairdresser without asking him? I struggle with this a bit, since my Sir's choices are not always my own. How is this for you?
You can see my current rules from the link at the top of my blog, but basically yes there are rules about my appearance (and several other unwritten rules in this area which i also follow). Sir has certain preferences regarding the types of clothes i buy which i make sure i stick to, He likes my hair long so i keep it that way but can go to the hairdresser for a trim when needed, He likes my finger and toenails neatly polished at all times (but i can choose the colours), He chooses which toiletries, perfumes, etc. i will buy and use, He specifies how i am to keep my pussy (shaved) and how often to do so, etc, etc. i haven't really struggled with these rules to be honest as i knew to expect them when i entered into this relationship, but good luck with adapting to your own rules. -
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i think it was different for me because before i met Sir i thought of myself as 'vanilla' (not that i knew that term, but i considered myself 'normal' and not kinky in any way), so i was perfectly happy with 'normal' boyfriends. i just happened to be attracted to men that were older than me and men that were naturally dominant and in control. Once i found out that i had an interest in kinky sex (which is all i thought my interest extended to in the beginning) i met Sir soon after and He led me through my training and discovery in this area and we have been together ever since. So i was one of the lucky ones, i never went through a time of waiting and wishing for my perfect Master to come along, or felt lonely or left out or different. i was never stuck in a vanilla relationship feeling that my needs weren't being met or endlessly searching the web for that one genuine Dom. i'm sorry i can't be of more help but i would say hang in there, do all you can to talk to and meet up with like-minded people so you don't feel so alone and i hope you find what you're looking for soon.
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13 and a bit years - Sir was 45 in February, i was 32 in August. But to be honest i don't really notice the age difference, and i think it would be weird to have a Master younger than me (for me personally, though i think it could work for some couples). Also i have always been drawn to men older than me, so it makes sense for me.
Do you have an email? or somewhere i can write you?
Sir's email is linked to the top of this blog: sir.peter@hotmail.co.uk
Sir passes all the emails about this blog onto me and allows me to reply to most of them and to send my email address onto some of them. He doesn't let me put my own email address on this blog because of all the trolls! i always like getting emails from blog readers, as well as comments and formspring questions. -
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Of course. i think that's true of anything though - there's days when i feel like i haven't been as 'motherly' as i could have been, as patient as i could have been, as 'housewifey' as i could have been, as productive as i could have been, etc. And there's days i struggle with being a mum, with being a stay-at-home wife, with being responsible for a child with special needs, with being a good friend or sister or daughter or whatever.
i don't think i have more days where i struggle with being submissive or that i struggle with my submission more than i struggle with anything else, but it does feature more prominently in my life so it's something i take very seriously and try my best to work on and do well in and make progress in. And because it's the basis of my relationship with Sir it's something that affects me more when i have difficulties with it than perhaps another aspect of my life might.
i'm not sure whether you asked this question because you sense problems within me related to my submission (especially since William has been born) or you struggle with your own submission at times and feel it's only you. But either way i would say it's natural to have these struggles, that everyone has bad days and that the fact that these struggles affect us (me) shows how committed we are (i am) to our relationships and to being in the lifestyle.
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yes i'm still posting here, just not as frequently as i once did. Which isn't surprising i guess, given that we now have a very bright and active 3 year old, a whirlwind of destruction aka a 1 year old and another 1 year old with complex disabilities and medical needs! But i still value and enjoy blogging here when i can.
Are you worried that your kids could find out about your M/s relationship when they're older?
Not really 'worried' because i hope that by the time they do 'find out' (that's if they ever do because i certainly never found out the details of my parents' relationship) they will know enough about us as people and our beliefs and values that they will realise it's a healthy relationship for us, it's what we've both chosen and we're very much in love with each other. We're bringing our children up to learn that there's different types of people in the world who make different choices about all aspects of their lives and they should value those choices so long as they don't harm anyone. So i don't see it being a problem.
Hey libby, you just answered my question....81. By pictures i meant just regular g rated pictures not x rated
Sir's rules apply to all pictures of me as He doesn't want us 'outed' to our friends and families unless and until we are ready to 'out' ourselves. Which is probably never. i'm not sure why pictures of me are so important anyway.
Your rules on sexual use are detailed with regard to your mouth. Does your master treat your mouth, vagina and anus equally or is your mouth of more use to Him?
Sir uses all 3 of my holes and is pretty equal with His use of them. He does go through phases where He tends to use one more than the others, but on a whole it balances out. i think the reason i have more rules regarding my mouth than my vagina or anus is because i have more 'control' when my mouth is being used, so Sir felt it necessary to stipulate His preferences and requirements from the outset on this area so i know what is expected of me. Also i am required to offer/give Him a blowjob everyday, so i guess that's also why there's more rules about my mouth.
What would you have done if your Sir had wanted you to abort William?
This is a really difficult and emotive question and one i have put off answering for a while. In a way it's irrelevant because Sir had no intention of aborting William so the issue never arose and because of the kind of person He is i never thought that He would so it's not something i even had to worry about. But if the situation had arisen that Sir wanted to abort William and i didn't we would have discussed it openly together, including all the reasons for and against and come to a decision together. my rules state that in all decisions to do with the children i have an equal voice, so the fact of Sir being my Master wouldn't have meant i automatically have to go with His decision in this case. And we had Finn to think about too, which would have/ did influence our decision.
What are some good ways to meet Doms?
Go along to a local munch or play party or other BDSM event.
Or start out chatting to people on the internet and take it from there (being aware that lots of people online are not who they say they are).
What does it mean when you put under protection of the Dom?
i think this is primarily an online thing, though i guess it could apply to real-life too, such as at play parties and events. It usually applies to an unattached sub, often someone new and inexperienced who is concerned he/she may be taken advantage of. So a more experienced Dom acts as the Protector and sets certain guidelines for the sub's conduct and anyone interested in the sub would have to go through the Dom. That way the 'bad eggs' can be weeded out and the sub can be prevented from doing anything which may lead them into a difficult or dangerous situation.
Did your Sir really make you poo onto a plate in front of Him for humiliation training? Was it as humiliating as it sounds?
Yes and yes.
Do you and Sir watch porn together? Do you watch porn or enjoy it? What type do you/ you and Sir enjoy?
We rarely watch porn together though sometimes Sir will direct me to a particular photo or video clip online and ask for my comments. i like the Kink.com sites (especially Hogtied and Device Bondage) but don't visit them anymore because they're now illegal in this country under the new porn laws and it's not worth getting caught. Porn isn't a big thing for me or Sir, so we tend to do without it.
hi im chris i have just become involved with a very exp slave i am a fairly new dom she is great and i need to learn more about her and what i need to do to make things work be good to her and her needs need some advice here thanks chris
The first thing i would say is it's difficult to take a Dom seriously when He types without punctuation at all and also i associate small 'i's with subs, but that's just me. i think that many of the same rules apply to vanilla relationships as D/s so imagine what you would do if in a vanilla relationship with someone more experienced and do the same. Having said that it is important for the Dom to take the lead and be in control, so set some rules and requirements for her to follow, ensure she keeps them and give out consequences if not, try to attend some training sessions on aspects of 'play' you want to learn more about and practice them (especially for any implement you may be using) and don't be afraid to get her to teach you. It's difficult for me to answer, being a sub, but that's the best advice i can give (and Sir is too busy for me to ask today).
Your "I had a dream" post was very moving. Did it take you a while to get used to being used anally? Did you train with a plug?
yes it did take a while and it was something i was very nervous and unsure about in the beginning, but now it is something i love. There's something very submissive about being used there, it instantly puts me in a certain headspace which i really like. For details of my anal training please see #46 and #42. -
For several reasons:
1. Because it's part of Sir's rules that i don't post or send any pictures of me to anyone online - this is His way of keeping me safe as He had a bad experience in the past with someone threatening to 'out' a former sub of His with photos she had sent in good faith.
2. To prevent us being 'outed' deliberately or inadvertantly to our friends, families, neighbours or work colleagues - once a photo is on the internet we no longer have any control over what is done with it or who sees it and as we both have no wish for our lifestyle to be made public among our vanilla acquaintances, we take steps to avoid it.
3. i don't really see the necessity in publishing photos of me, naked or otherwise - i think this blog is fine without photos and if anyone doesn't like it, there's plenty of free porn on the internet already.
4. i don't like the idea of complete strangers oogling over naked photos of me, so unless Sir demanded i post or send a photo (which i doubt He ever will, see #1) then it's not something i would choose to do. -
Sir tends to work through problems by Himself to start with and then He will sit down with me during one of our 'free talk' times and discuss the issue with me too, stating what thoughts He has had about it, setting out the different options and then asking for my opinion. He will listen if i have a different opinion to His or have an alternative suggestion to the ones He has already thought of, and then He comes to a decision and tells me what that is. With things which have no solution, such as William's condition, we talk frequently and openly about our feelings and how we are coping and Sir will admit to me when He is struggling so that i can give Him extra support during those times. i like it that Sir is comfortable enough in His Dominance not to feel threatened by opening Himself up like that to me and that He isn't afraid to admit to His weaknesses and accept support from me in them.
i know when Sir has a problem or issue He is working through, because He will get very quiet and take Himself away (usually to His study area in the converted garage) and the best thing to do is just give Him time to process everything and wait for Him to come to me when He is ready. That's also what happens when He is grumpy or angry for some reason and again i just give Him time and space until He is feeling better again. i guess on the whole, Doms are likely to bottle things up more than subs because we have it drummed into us that we must be completely open and communicate all our negative feelings and issues to our Sirs so that they can help us work through them. But i haven't found that to be the case with my Sir, so i guess the bottling-up thing depends on individual personality as well.
Are you and your Master monogamous? You've mentioned playing with other women as part of your training, but your "Our Story" post also says you guys aren't sexually involved with other people "in that way".
Yes, Sir and i are monogamous and it was very important for that to be made clear to me before i accepted His collar otherwise i wouldn't have been able to enter into the relationship. i wouldn't be able to cope with Sir playing/scening with other women, let alone having a sexual or D/s relationship with anyone else. i do flirt and play and scene online with other people (male and female, Dominant and submissive), but only because Sir encourages it, and i have played sexually with other girls in real-life and been trained and scened with Doms and Dommes in real-life, because Sir has required it. But He sets strict rules, such as no other man's cock is allowed in my pussy or bottom, so in that way i am monogamous as i don't have sexual intercourse with any other man (though i have given blow jobs on request). The reason i wrote that statement in 'Our story' post was that people were asking if Poppy was definitely Sir's when i was pregnant with her, presuming that i had sex with other men and i don't!
When did your Sir stop having other subs? Did you ever meet his other subs?
i think this question has been asked before, but i'll answer it again. Sir has had several subs in the past, including having two at once at one time, but that didn't work out too well hence why He is now a one sub only Man! His last sub before me He released about a year before He replied to my online request for a Mentor/Trainer. And i haven't met any of His previous subs because i think it would make me start comparing myself to them and that's never a good road to go down. Sir has told me some things about them and that's all i need to know. -
i'm not sure i'm the best person to answer this because i have only just completed my introductory humiliation training, so don't really have enough experience of it yet to know how it benefits me, let alone feel able to speak on behalf of submissive women as a whole. What i will say is that i don't think humiliation works for all subs/slaves and i think it works in different ways for different people.
Mainly i think that humiliation can be an important part of some submissives' training and growth because it strips them down like nothing else really can. When you allow yourself to become that vulnerable and you are taken to a place where you feel that small and worthless you are the pure uncomplicated version of yourself with no pretense or acting or any of that outward persona that most of us try so hard to maintain the whole time. And once you have been taken to that state, both you and your Dom can discover things about you that neither of you knew before.
Also by allowing yourself to be treated in that way requires a great amount of trust on the part of the sub, so that in itself can help her to grow and develop. i think one of the most important lessons i have learnt from my humiliation training so far is that i don't have to look all sexy and alluring all the time in order to be a worthwhile sub and that i can allow myself to be intensely vulnerable in front of other trusted Doms than my Sir and still come out of the experience as myself and not permanently broken.
i'm not sure if any of that will have made sense to anyone except me as i suspect that humiliation is one of those intensely personal things which affects people in different ways. But i know it has been useful for me as a slave to experience it and it has helped me to grow and develop, even though it has been very difficult and unpleasant at times.
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Sir has used the violet want on me, which i found not as scary as i expected but in some places and with some attachments it was quite intense. Also He has one of those electric muscle stimulator packs which He has used on me before, which i find more humiliating than anything else because He uses it to make me clench my buttocks etc. Electrosex isn't something i am really into, but it's not a limit or anything either.
What about health concerns related to "cleaning" your Sir after anal use?
i've answered this question before. i keep myself clean back there and often do an extra clean before a session if i know Sir intends to use me anally, or sometimes He will instruct me to do this Himself. i know it can't eliminate all the hygiene concerns, but i've never found it to be a problem so far.
What is your favourite style of food?
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i've heard that idea a lot too, mainly online in chatrooms and on blogs and stuff. i'm not sure that i really believe it, but it's hard to prove or refute or even to draw parallels from the vanilla world. It's not like saying 'those who have been children make the best parents' or 'those who have been employees make the best managers' because in those types of situations it is natural to be one before progressing to the other. i don't see that there's a natural progression from being submissive to being Dominant, in fact i see them as being opposite to each other and requiring a completely different internal nature. So to me, someone who is a good sub would make a poor Dom/me and vice-versa.
Having said that there are plenty of examples online, in chatrooms and on other blogs, of people who are switches (act in both Dom/me and sub roles as they desire) or who started off sub and then became Dom/me (or sometimes the other way round but not so often). So i know it does happen. It's just difficult for me to get my head round the fact that someone can have both sets of characteristics and both cravings/needs/desires within them to make a good sub and a good Dom/me. And i'm not at all sure that i agree that subs make the best Dom/mes. In my experience i find the best Dom/mes are those who have always had naturally Dominant characteristics within them that make them born leaders and do not possess an ounce of submissiveness. But then that's my view/experience, yours may well vary.
As for the question of what kind of Domme i would be, the answer is simple: a very poor one. i have no desire to order someone else around, to control them, to inflict pain on them, to make them carry out my every wish and desire, to deny them, to make them wait, to humiliate them, etc, etc. If ordered to Domme someone by my Sir i would try it, but think i would fail. And i could never imagine Domming my Sir, even if He told me to. It would just be so unnatural and unnerving.
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i hadn't realised to be honest. i think it's probably due to the fact that in the beginning there was only me and Sir and i was getting to know Him better, hence all the thoughtful posts about Him. Now we are married and know each other inside out it doesn't feel like there's anything new to write about Him, though that doesn't mean that i won't answer questions about Him from curious readers! We are definitely not growing apart, in fact if anything having our children has made us closer, but at the same time they have given me other things to write about (especially William) and they occupy my thoughts as well as Sir.
Now that the twins are getting closer to being a year old, do you think you and Sir Pete will have another baby? And if it is a possibility when will you start trying?
Sir and i always said that we would have 3 or 4 children, but ideally 4. That was before having William though, and to be honest i'm so busy with the twins at the moment that i don't think having another baby would be a very good idea for any of us right now. i just don't have the energy or time to devote to another little one in addition to dealing with a bright little 3 year old, a very energetic and boisterous 10 month old and another 10 month old with complex special needs. That's not to say that we've completely ruled out the idea of having another baby sometime in the future, but we both think it's a good idea to wait till the twins are older (maybe about 3) before we seriously consider the idea again.
Was having Poppy before being married planned? Or did it just happen?
Yes and no. For some reason i suddenly got very broody and desperately wanted a baby, so i talked to Sir about it and He agreed that we would start trying. At the same time He proposed to me, which was a lovely surprise as i wasn't expecting it, but since we agreed to wait 2 years before getting married in order to prepare for it properly and since i wanted a baby asap, we agreed to let nature take its course and if our baby came along before we were married then so be it! In the end i got pregnant very quickly, so Poppy was 14 months old when we got married and was able to toddle down the aisle behind me as my flower girl. i had to lie to my parents and pretend that Poppy was an 'accident' but everyone else i know was fine with us having her before we were married.
I think it's great that your family have been so helpful with your children. Why do Sir's family not do so to the same extent? Is it because of distance or is Sir's mum continuing to have problems?
Sir's mum seems to have worked through her initial problems with William's diagnosis and now treats him just as lovingly as she does Finn and Poppy. She visits us or we visit her about once a month, with the kidlets, so they have contact with their 'Granma' quite frequently, and of course we invite her round for their birthdays, Christmas, etc. It's true that my parents and my sister look after the children much more regularly than Sir's mum does, but that was the case before the twins were born when we just had Poppy. It's partly to do with the fact that she lives further away than my family do, partly because she is older than my parents and on her own, and partly because my family have expressed much more interest in weekly contact with my kids than she has. i certainly don't want to impose on her by asking her to look after the children regularly, and i get the feeling that she wouldn't want to nor would she feel comfortable doing so. But that's fine with me. -
Yes He does, but He currently only uses them when there's a real need (such as when He posted info on here about me giving birth, or when William was taken into hospital, etc.) i don't see any problem with Him having the passwords to my online accounts and emails, it's not like any of it is hidden from Him anyway as He will read them whenever He wants to and often asks me who i have been chatting to on IRC, what we talked about, etc. As a slave i am so used to being open and honest with Him about everything that i would usually tell Him about a problem on the chatroom or a nasty email i received or a controversial blogpost i'd written before He found out for Himself anyway.
What political party did you vote for in the last election and why? Or, if you didn't vote, why not?
i know there are some Masters out there who tell their slaves which party to vote for or ban them from voting altogether. my Sir could do that if He wanted, but He sees no reason to and leaves it down to me whether i vote or not and who to vote for if i do. i haven't voted in the last few elections because i'm not really interested in politics, don't have a strong opinion on which party is better than another and don't particularly trust any of them anyway as they all lie just to get into power and then go back on their promises once they get in.
Did you go to university?
i considered going to train as a teacher, but then went into nursery nursing instead and got childcare qualifications on the job.
Given the age difference between the two of you, has your Sir lived with, been married or had any children before your current relationship?
Sir has lived with girlfriends (vanilla) and subs/slaves before, but never been married before (never been engaged to anyone else either) and does not have any children apart from the 3 we have together. i think because He discovered His Dominant side fairly young He focused on those types of relationships, so didn't go down the traditional move in together, get married, have kids line until later on in His life (with me!) -
i'm not sure 'appropriate' is the right word to use here. As a slave i don't really have a say in what happens to me, therefore it isn't up to me to say what it 'appropriate' or not. i guess i could say some behaviours would be 'inappropriate' such as requiring me to walk naked down the high-street or rob a shop or anything that means i would get into trouble with the law or expose the public to things they don't want to see. But anything else is down to the wishes of my Sir. And yes i have been exposed naked to other people (at my collaring, at play parties, during training, at BDSM dinner parties) etc. It's not something i would have chosen to do voluntarily, but it's not something which causes me a huge problem either as i know Sir is keeping me safe and i won't come to any harm.
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Firstly i'm afraid your question was too long and got cut off, so you're welcome to post the rest of it in a comment or something, but for now i'll answer what i can see:
To start with i would think it's fairly obvious that i do think that Sir is a 'mentally stable' person and that His actions reflect a 'sane mindset', otherwise i would not be married to Him, living with Him, have given over all control to Him and certainly would not have had children by Him. So i'm guessing what you really mean by this question is that *you* don't think a person who gets gratification out of controlling, psychologically manipulating, physically hurting and "owning" another person is mentally stable and has a sane mindset and therefore you find it hard to understand why someone like me would choose to enter into a relationship with such a person. Which is fair enough, we're all entitled to our own opinions and to choose our own lifestyle, but that includes me as well.
i am entitled to weigh up the pros and cons and choose to become a slave, i am entitled to make the decision to give away all control of my life to another, i am entitled to bring my children up within a marriage which happens to be one of Master/slave even though they are not exposed to that, i am entitled to enjoy and benefit from, need and crave and desire to be hurt and used and controlled by the Man i love. i do not look at the decisions you have made in your life, or the person you may be in a relationship with, and question whether they are good choices or that person is mentally stable because i don't think it's any of my business. i believe i have shown through my blog that i am happy and fulfilled in my relationship, that my children are safe and well looked after, and indeed that my Sir is a good and decent human being, so there is no need for concern.
i believe that it takes all sorts to make the world, that people will naturally have different personalities and characteristics, enjoy different things, enter into different forms of relationships, etc. A small percentage of those people are truly "bad" or mentally unstable or insane, and a small percentage of those relationships are abusive and detrimental to one or both participants. But my Sir and our relationship together do not fall into those categories. There are people in this world who are natural leaders and those who are natural followers - does that mean that those who get gratification out of controlling others through their job (e.g. by being a manager, policeman, prison officer, even a teacher) are mentally unstable? That those who enjoy "owning" animals as pets are somehow insane? How far do you take that theory? In my opinion Dominants like my Sir are towards one end of the scale in that they choose to exert their natural inclination to control and lead and extend it into all areas of their life including their marriage/personal relationships *with a consenting other*. If you look at the animal world there's many parallels to be drawn there with dominant males, pack leaders, etc. so it's a very natural way to be.
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Sir has never required me to collect His cum, often when giving Him a hand job He will choose to cum over a certain part of my body (e.g. titties, face, bottom) or He will tell me to open my mouth so He can cum in there and i then swallow it down. my rules state that Sir's cum is a 'precious gift to receive and i should not waste it' so it's rare that it is just 'disposed of'.
What age were you when you got your first proper bra and can you remember what size it was?
i was quite a late developer, so i'd say i was probably 14 before i got a bra and it was probably a small size (34A?). Before having my babies i had small perky bewbies (34B) which went up to a 34C after finishing nursing Poppy, and i have no idea what size they will end up at after i finish nursing the twins.
You met Sir online, right? How open about this are you with your friends and family, the ones that don't know about your lifestyle?
We are always completely open with all our friends and family about the fact that we met on an online 'chatroom', started off by emailing and IMing and webcamming, and then after a while met up in real-life and continued our relationship from there. After all it's not that unusual nowadays. The part we leave out is that it was a Fetish site we met on, and that Sir was training me as His sub when we started to meet in real-life! -
Good question! Sir planned to do some 'fear play' with me at one point, and indeed it's still listed on my 'future training' along with 'needles exploration' and 'single tail whipping' both of which i am truly afraid of. We started a little bit on the needle play before, during the limits exploration training but didn't get very far because i panic at the thought of one of them piercing my skin so couldn't get beyond looking at them and holding them (and yes this means i am scared of blood tests and injections, but the fear is manageable when it's a medical person using the needles).
i think that's the only true fear i have faced so far with Sir, though there have been many situations where i have been scared and nervous and unsure. But i tend to just breathe my way through them, take each step at a time, focus on the present moment and getting through that. And i remind myself of how much i trust Sir, how He won't let anything harm me, how similar situations in the past have turned out fine with Him, how proud He will be of me if i manage to get through it. So basically i give myself a little pep talk in my head whilst it's going on!
If necessary i will face some of my true fears in the future for Sir (i am afraid of heights, needles, dogs and single-tail whipping), but we'll have to wait and see how well i do with it! -
"cleaning" refers to me cleaning Sir's cock after He has been in my hand/mouth/pussy/ass/etc. It means that i am required to use my mouth to gently suck and lick His cock to remove anything that may be on it after it has been in one or other of my body parts. And my rules state that i must do this every time and not wait to be told.
"being used as furniture" refers to another of my rules which states that Sir may require me to be His table, stool, lamp, book-rest, etc. Basically it means that i take on the form and function of that piece of furniture as much as possible, using my body to rest Sir's feet on, or to hold a light for Him to see, or for Him to store His drink between sips, or to hold His book steady for Him to read, etc. To be honest i haven't been used as an item of furniture for a while due to how busy we are with the 3 children now, but it's just another way in which a slave can be of use to her Master and also be reminded of her place at the same time.
Thanks for your question! i still have a few more formspring questions to answer, but some i deleted because they were comments rather than questions, or they have already been answered, or they were too long so i didn't get to read what the whole question said! Please try again if you think you fall into that last category. -
In public i tend to try avoiding addressing Sir by any name, which if you listen to most people when they're out in public is what tends to happen anyway, people talk to each other without saying a name first. If we're out with Poppy or the twins i'll use that as an excuse to call Him 'Daddy', as if i'm speaking to Him on behalf of the kids. But generally, no there aren't any special terms we use in public.
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asked by Ivybride
hi and congratulations on your pregnancy. When i was first pregnant with Poppy Sir had me research which BDSM activities were still safe and which should be avoided, and i found that actually not that many were 'banned' during pregnancy. Basically you're recommended to avoid electricity play, spanking (because of the noise which transmits to your baby), bondage, breath play, anything which puts pressure on the abdomen, certain oils and pressure points which can trigger labour, anything which makes you too hot, and nipple play during the last month. Apart from that do what you want, including anal sex and rough sex (i checked these with my doctor), bewbie play, floggings, sensation play, oral sex, hand jobs, etc. On the whole it's more a case of being inventive, finding different positions, checking in with the woman to make sure she's ok and dealing with those pesky hormones. You can read a brief account of one of our pregnant play sessions here: http://libbysub.blogspot.com/2007/10/pregnant-play-session.html
Thanks for the question and have fun!
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libby’s Bio
i am an owned slave, living with my Master/husband, our little girl and twin baby boys.
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