Thank you for the question! I like questions that make me think .')

In girls, I like someone who is feminine, yet has a masculine edge, maybe in that they aren't afraid to get dirty, or they have a little rasp to their voice, or perhaps that in bed they like to take the lead. I've always enjoyed girls who are into arts of any sort, and admired ones who are into dance - I admire the dedication and discipline it takes to maintain their body's image, mobility, and how it takes a strong mind to stick to it. I admire a good sense of fashion, or rather, that they take interest in fashion, whichever style it may be (I have preferences, but I don't judge by someone's style). Of course, I look for honesty, and a good connection, both physically and mentally with her, honesty being a key component. Of course, I would like for her to be one who understands, sexually, that I am not quite like other men, and that perhaps there would be extra room in our bedroom some nights, and that we are open to sharing. I like a sense of power in girls, and independence, perhaps a need to be alone at times, as it keeps me in check, realizing what a good thing I have, and also allows for me to have time to reflect. I like a girl who can flirt with other girls, or boys, but at the end of the night, still shows it's me she loves, even if her thighs are sticky and wet. I also love a good travel partner, exercise partner, or a kitchen partner. These three things are very important to me right now, and have been for some time. I want a girl I can share everything with, and thankfully, I have one at the moment, and have for the last six years!

In boys, because I am not the alpha male, I prefer someone who is the alpha, but doesn't look too masculine. Someone who knows what he wants, and isn't afraid to show it, isn't ashamed. I like that strong energy, being encouraged to let my 'other' side out, without guilt or fear. I think I would like someone who has a touch of sexism in him, in that he wants me to fulfill a certain 'female' quota, and meet his needs. I like that I would be pushed out of my comfort zone, but for him, I would learn to overcome it, playing the part he desires out to the last manicured nail, or piece of jewelery. I would want someone who wanted to push me further and further away from who I had been before, so that it seems like a distant memory of the past, and so that, one day, when I realize where I have come from, it would already be too late to return. Obviously, I would like someone who has a strong sex-drive and has demands to have his way with me whenever, and wherever he pleases - who likes to emotionally/mentally fuck with my head while doing so, humiliating me, so that after the act is done, I am still left wanting more, and feeling embarrassed for it, not being allowed to clean up the mess he left inside me, but rather taking me out for the night, perhaps in an outfit he chose for me, all the while being aware of his seed making it's way out of me... and he loves knowing that my mind is off somewhere else all the while, trying to make sense of the situation I have allowed myself to get into. Ultimately though, he would have to be a caring individual, with a lot of heart, at the end of the day, someone I could open up to (emotionally), and also feel safe and comfortable with.