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I'm more organized than messy- the boy is a bit of a slob, hehe, but he's enough of a service submissive to pick up enough to satisfy me.
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I'm always told I look like a fat Natalie Portman. :)
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Interesting to whom? ::grin:: I mean, my major kink is service, though I'm terrible at receiving it (working on that!) but I also kink hard for novelty roleplays.
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I think a badge along the lines of "don't just flirt, hit me with a clue-by-four!" may be in order. Though it's also good to try going to flirtation workshops and read up on body language cues to pick up some skills.
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I'm very happy with the age I am. :)
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Yes, probably! I like living with a bunch of people as long as they can communicate well!
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I get asked this question fairly often- not terribly surprising when being blunt about life as a fat queer feminist sex worker, I suppose!
Not conforming is both incredibly easy and terribly difficult. It's easy because I don't have to wear things I don't want to wear, hide my intellect or my opinions, or fake my interest in the sex that I have at work. I've created a reputation for being upfront and honest, and that works in my favour in terms of preventing burnout in some ways. I would struggle to keep up a facade for too long.
But it's difficult because if you don't conform to the mainstream, you're automatically niche and have to work harder to get clients. Mature, plus sized, small breasted, people of colour- these are things that, if a client is looking for it, will work very much in your favour, but if they aren't it can and often does work against you. Many clients are looking for someone size 8-10, for example, and no matter how much I enjoy my work or how good I am at it, I will be passed over for someone who fits those guidelines. It can be tiring, and I'll admit, I've thought about losing weight or dumbing down to see if that would be more marketable. In the end, I've decided it wasn't worth it.
I mean hell, just being out about being a sex worker doesn't conform! And, even further, being out as a sexual woman doesn't conform to standard ideas of femininity. I've been pretty far from conforming all along the line I think.
So how do I feel about not conforming to stereotypes? Relieved, in some ways, but tired in others. I definitely pay for that decision by needing to hustle, and justify my existence, more. But it's also more rewarding, and when I succeed, I feel like *I'm* succeeding, not a fake version of me. And that's pretty sweet. -
Thank you for your question! Being the first brave person, I'll answer your question now.
Genital herpes is one of those tricky ones. You can run the risk of the lack of an outbreak meaning you can ditch the dam- but not having visual proof of an outbreak doesn't mean that you can't still catch and spread it, thanks to "viral shedding" which can happen even when sores aren't present. Really, you'll likely need to get familiar with dams and gloves.
Now, there are dams that smell nice (Sh! or Good Vibes have them) and of course using some good lubricant can make the experience a little more fun. Any water-based or silicone based lube will work- I personally love Hathor Aphrodisia lube, which has horny goat weed in it and is really body-safe.
You can also try using a glove to get a more pinpointed sensation when giving protected oral sex. There are two ways to do it! The first is to cut off the three middle fingers-then you have a square with two handles where you can insert your thumbs to make the dental dam easier to manipulate (they do get slippery!). The second is to cut off all the fingers, except for the thumb, and then slit the glove down the pinky side. That gives you a square with a lovely place in the middle (i.e. the thumb) you can use to safely insert your tongue, or a finger, into the person you love. That's my preference!
As for gloves, personally I find black latex/non latex gloves to be incredibly hot, especially when covered with lube. :)
The more you have safer sex, too, and the more you make it into part of your sexual routine, the less it'll feel like a barrier or in the way. Think about the way you talk about using dams and gloves- do you sigh and groan or do you find reaching for them to be a turn on cause it means you're going to be getting down and dirty? The more you treat it like foreplay, the hotter it'll get.
Best of luck, and thanks for being first!
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The perfect Valentine's Day for me actually would be something away from friends and events, just my lover/s and I, maybe with a spa treatment self-care thing and then just time to enjoy them without distractions.
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It should be your decision, but please make sure you're making an informed one. Ask people about agencies and working independently, consider if you want to do escorting or kink or erotic massage or nude modeling or camming or something else. But it's really none of his business what you do. Would you ask his permission to go on a date?
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Just smile and wave or nod and keep going. My friends know about my work, and my clients would be way too shy!
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I see a probably caucasian, very likely middle class, probably cissexual man.
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Ooh. I love red velvet, though that's somewhat cliche now- cheesecake is also amazing, and sometimes, when I feel particularly little-girlish, I like that funfetti cake with all the colours in it!
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Not generally, no. I respect people's right to privacy, and frankly, they're usually giving me an alias...
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I have sat on this for a while because I just...don't...know! Probably Valmont's outfit in Dangerous Liaisons. Or Nan's military uniform from Tipping the Velvet.
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That one's hard! I don't know what I'd want to share that I don't already. Maybe I'd be quicker to admit how vulnerable and fragile I am.
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I generally prefer to live with other people, but having my own room, even if as a couple. I could live rather happily on my own though. People can always visit.
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A place where sex work was legal, there was some freedom for me to explore running events more, good public transport, moderate weather, and I could live there while having easy, cheap access to other places.
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Kitty Stryker’s Bio
I'm a girl, mostly.
