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Bliss

haha okay :P

hmmm????

Well, the way I began to gain self confidence was by finding something that I genuinely liked to do. Its so easy to just go through life doing a bunch of meaningless shit that you aren't even passionate about without paying any attention to who you really are or what you care for. So, thats the first thing. Find something you really love to do, and do it. Practice it, improve, become great at what you do. Even if its just like... cleaning your room. Clean it with your whole heart, love every second of it! ;P For me, it was bellydancing.

Then, I would suggest writing down a list of all the things you like about yourself. Personality wise, looks-wise, etc... and really reflect on them. Don't just write down one word answers. Go in depth with your list, why are these things about you so important?

Start working out. Exercising releases endorphins and makes you feel better (after a few rough times) overall. You'll feel great about doing it, and eventually, feel better about yourself!

Dress up. This is a huge thing with me. I'll get in the habit of just dressing like shit and not caring and then my mood and confidence level starts to reflect the way I dress. Take some extra time to pamper yourself in the morning. Look extra cute for no one but yourself.

Compliment others and act kindly. When you give out *genuine* compliments and act kindly to other people, the positve energy you are sending out will come back to you. Be sincere with the things that you say, but say them! Add some positiivity to your life and the lives of others... even just this will do great things for how you see yourself.

Hope that helps :)

blue powerade!

Mmm i'm not sure. I really admire my friend Kristen's relationship with her bf because of everything they have been through and are still very in love and passionate about eachother. And is this concieted of me? I think my relationship is very strong despite how crazy we can be sometimes. But most of my friends who are in relationships, are in very deep, beautiful, romantic relationships!

I think that its really, really hard to build trust for someone after you have already lost it. I'd say, write down all of the things you love about that person... then go back and reflect on those things and whether or not it'd be worth losing that person due to mistrust. Make a pros and cons list about the relationship. This is such a tough question! I have answered a similar question about this in the past.... if you go back and search far enough you might find something. Otherwise, I'm not sure how to help! Mistrust usually means insecurity. Start building your own self confidence and assurance that things will go fine and hopefully you will begin to trust again!

ninetails! :)

haha probably~

lol

Hello lovely, I'm good. How are you?

Snake!

In a way. it is definitely much less fun now and I see it in a different light. I wish more students (upperclassmen) were allowed off campus and (all students) off the meal plan. There really isn't an outlet for older people either, older meaning 21+. Forced to live in the dorms, but still mostly the same rules.... blah. Overall, Green Mountain has made some good changes academically which I am happy about. But it seems to me like things are going down hill? My favorite professor is gone, the heat was broken, shit in chartwells all messed up, blah blah idk.

So basically, yes and no.

I agree with you completely. Its weird, love is probably one of the most abstract feelings, concepts, ideas, etc... yet its something we all desire and experience in our lives.

i wish i could. love is everything. it is the most beautiful yet the most tragic thing that a person can experience...

hmm, well you should definitely sit down and have an ~honesty session. Ask her what you can do to redeem yourself, how you guys can move forward together. You simply cannot have a relationship without trust. Ask her what makes her uncomfortable, and make sure she knows that you won't do them again. Be sure to make it known, however, that you HAVE to move on and get past it if you really want to be with eachother.

xx hope that helps

yes i do!

Well, do you have any reason not to trust her? Or does she not trust you?

To build trust there must be a level of predictability in the relationship... build a routine and don't give up on it. Send her a goodnight text before she goes to sleep, it'll become something she will look forward to and it can be trust building.

Be honest and don't keep secrets from each other. Obviously every person has their own individual secrets, but when it comes to the big stuff... sit down and have an honesty session. Talk about everything... don't leave things to wonder and be nervous about.

Let your needs be known, listen to her needs. Talk about them often. Communicate!!!

This might seem obvious but... don't lie. Not even silly little white lies. And if she does them, call her out on them.

Sorry, I'm kind of sleepy. If you tell me what the situation is specifically I might be able to help you better :)

Maybe you should make the first move and just kiss him! I found that being daring is well worth putting yourself on the line. Or just say that you like him. But what it comes down to is, one of you needs to kiss/hold hands with the other.