Is your position that you and TH are not soulmates or meant to be rooted in your religion? I feel like I've heard/read other LDS people say they feel like God led them to their husband or something like that.
That belief is based off of this statement given at BYU by Spencer W. Kimball when he was acting President and Prophet of the Church:
"Soul mates" are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.
The full talk can be found here:
http://speeches.byu.edu/reader/reader.php?id=6136
We do certainly believe that God can provide "hints" regarding what we should do through the Holy Ghost, but we have absolute free will to make our own choices. In regards to romance, Spencer W. Kimball was trying to help us see that we make our own happiness, we shouldn't just wait around for the right person to come into our life and give it to us.
