No, not secretly. I will announce clearly when one is my favorite at that very moment because they are doing something wonderful like getting me a fresh glass of water, giving me the best hug of the day, putting their clothes away or just saying something delightfully hilarious.

By announcing such favoritism, usually my other son will say something like, "Hey! I thought I was your favorite?" My response, "Oh, honey you are both my favorites." See this rewards good behavior and creates a bit of good ol' American competition. In the end, my boys learn good deeds are rewarded and I get some pampering ... which every woman needs.