ah the trick is bribery my friend. For example, I need to be on the phone for 20 minutes, if ya'll don't make any noise you can watch tv (they usually aren't allowed) or-if you let me write this essay I need to write, I'll make ya'll a cake/pizza/give you dinner (insert evil laugh). In cars, if we are going somewhere-the usual, I will turn this car around and we will go no where works. Also, before getting off at stores & shopping they have to recite back to me a few simple rules: no asking for anything, no asking for toys, no running, no whining-or we'll come right out without food/supplies/and so forth.