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Well... I've lost about 40 pounds so far... I want to lost about 100 more pounds to get me to the old government recommended BMI...
Not dying made me decide to lose it. I was and still am a bigger guy. About 6 months ago, I was diagnosed with Type II diabetes, so I needed to make a change to get healthier.
I wish I could be cliche and say I'm losing weight because I'm going to be single... Maybe spotting up on some botox... Lasering off my face wrinkles to be hot with the ladies... Getting some new teaser strips and hair plugs, but nope...
For me, I'm just looking to be able to enjoy the rest of my life. -
:D Thanks!
I've been having the following discussion with my brother over the last few days...
Logically, I think I can make the case for "me = awesome" (and a lot of people can do that for themselves too). I can sit in front of the Stuart Smalley mirror and repeat affirmations all day long. The problem is, my emotional brain thinks my logical brain is a drug addled loser who'd lie and cheat to get another fix. For a lot of people, the emotional brain doesn't believe the logical brain.
Right now, I know I don't want to believe that I'm awesome because then I'll stop being awesome. I've observed too many people that have "believed the hype" about themselves. They become complete douches if they're not ready for it. I *know* I'm not emotionally ready to believe the hype.
I've also observed my behavior when people tell me how great I look since I've lost weight. Weight loss becomes a little less important. I need to keep myself on a short leash on all things.
I appreciate you saying that I'm awesome, but... I ain't ready to start buying it...
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My white lie list is long.
My non-white lie list is not long.
In fact, through the beauty of subconscious denial, I don't really know what non-white lies I've told recently. I know I have in my life really lied. I know I have. One thing that I learned over the years and now KNOW is that I'm not smart enough to keep a major lie under wraps.
The latest non-white lie I've been accused of telling is denying that I've been running around hooking up with lots of various women. My ex is convinced I've morphed into a cocksman since we've separated. She also thinks I was cheating on her when I still lived at home.
When she thinks about me now, she doesn't see the same scared little man/boy too afraid to kiss her back when we started dating. She's convinced herself that I've changed and won't believe me when I say that I haven't. Or doesn't understand how I've changed in other ways, but that still hasn't changed. I honestly don't think I have being a mimbo in me.
I don't want meaningless sex to validate who I am. That sends you down a bad path. I guess for a guy, that's probably the often chosen path. The more notches on the gun belt, the better you feel about yourself. Maybe if I had chosen that path, I'd be in a different spot in life, but I can't.
Whew... I needed to get that one off my chest. If there is anyone spying on my posts for my ex, I still won't be believed. Why post it? Because it's true. I don't have to be mindful to keep the story going. I'm too lazy to have to do that. -
It has been quite a while since I've had sex. I don't think I have the exact date the last time I had sex written down, but if I knew it was the last time, I would have. To give you an idea of how long it has been, the other person involved was my soon to be ex.
When you're married, you never think that every time you have sex could be the "last time". I've learned that it could be the last time and while it's happening, you don't have any idea that it is. The problem is any time you have sex, married or not, could be the LAST TIME. An accident, an illness, a catastrophic penis injury, a horrible break up, who knows?
(Sorry for the depressing thought, but it's true)
So to turn this bummer question into something uplifting, treat every time you do something with people you care about like it's the last time you'll ever do it. Don't go through the motions. Be there. Make something about it special. It doesn't have to be the lifetime best of what ever it is you're doing, just make something about it special. -
I think that being in a friends with benefits type deal would be great, I'm not gonna lie... Right now, I think that would be the best type of relationship for me until I get my head right. When I think of FWBs I think of two people that like each other but don't have the amount of time to build a deeper relationship because distance, kids or life are roadblocks. (Is that what you're thinking it means?)
As to your second question, I think it would be a major coup for *me* to have one friend with benefits... More than one? You must be thinking about a muppet with a better self image... I think that you could have many fuck buddies, but only one (or maybe two) friends with benefits...
While I talk to many interesting ladies on these interwebs, making that jump to meeting IRL and becoming real friends and *then* making the next jump to actually sharing benefits with said friends seems like a pipe dream.
Meeting someone IRL is a big deal for me. My insecurities and every fiber of my being believes that the words I type and thoughts in my brain could be attractive to someone, but the rest of the package could blow the whole deal.
I do think it would be awesome to have a nice friendly relationship with some benefits... yes... -
To get to know me, you prolly could start by asking me questions about stuff...
Figure out how to get me to talk about myself for a while...
Or make me laugh...
It's pretty easy...
P.S. I like words that aren't dirty, but put together in the right way, so really are... -
I'd have to say, I'm afraid to answer the naughty parts on formspring. I'm not really afraid to answer this question... if you emailed me...
I like boobs...
I like asses...
I will not be classified by your "labels"... ;-) -
It is a little bit sad to be sex-less... There are plenty of naughty things to miss too... It's prolly not advisable to answer this question at all...
I don't miss the naughty things the most... I miss the tenderness... I miss the snuggling... -
I'm going to define "coolest person" as the person I know that is the most comfortable with themselves...
So, the coolest person I know is one of my best friends Herbie. He's one of those guys that just gets it. He never gets frazzled by anything. He's never anxious about anything. He is one cool customer.
He's one of those friends who can slice through the bullshit of any situation and see what's critical. If you need any advice he's your man.
He was always a hit with the ladies and is as humble as you can get. So, yeah, it has to be Herbert... -
This question is just based on a day off that's been a long time coming... i.e. If it has been a stressful long work week...
1. Sleep in a bit with some snuggling... My current snuggle pal is Fur Kid...
2. Super long, extra hot shower
3. Dog park for some frisbee time with Fur Kid
I have to say that if I wasn't single, the first two would stay the same with the exception of clothing optional snuggling and someone else in the long hot shower. The dog park is one of my favorites no matter what. -
Ahhh...
The choices:
- Lasagna from scratch
- Spaghetti with meat sauce from scratch
- BBQ chicken on the Weber grill with sliced potatos cooked in tin foil and mushrooms cooked in tin foil on the grill.
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I'm not a huge Iron Chef fan... There is too much stress around food... Food needs to be happy... You need to have whatever spices and tools necessary...
Food isn't a contest. -
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Well... This is a tough, complicated, emotional question that I honestly shouldn't answer on-line with any detail for a host of reasons and one of the biggest reasons is legal.
My ex and I have both agreed after some couples counseling that the answer to both of these questions is "No". -
This question makes me laugh!
I've dated the spectrum of women when it comes to breast sizes. I honestly don't think I have a preference for boob size and have always thought men that did were a little bit messed up in the head.
My personal thoughts? If you're with a woman and they want to get naked and you are actually with them and you get to see, touch, kiss, suck, squeeze or otherwise molest their breasts... You, as a man, have won... -
I am honestly crapped up musically... I have a real problem with not being able to commit to any genres of music at all... Here's a list of artists I've purchased whole albums from recently:
- Cat Stevens
- Songs from Glee
- Snoop Dogg
- Noah and the Whale
- Stephen Marq (piano instrumentalist that played in the MSP terminal for a while)
- Warren Zevon
- Stephen Stills
I also listen to a lot of:
- Led Zeppelin
- Jimi Hendrix
- Alexi Murdoch
- Smashing Pumpkins
- Foo Fighters
- Neko Case
- Ingrid Michaelson
- Sara Bareilles
- The Wicked Soundtrack
- U2
- B-52s
- REM
So as you can see... I seem to fly everywhere musically... As some people see, from great to utter shit...
The only real genre I don't purchase music in is country. I like country, I just don't have to own it. If I need it, it's on the radio. -
There are a lot of people from my virtual world that I'd like to meet IRL... I know enough about people that I have to say, I just want to meet them. There are no ulterior motives.
I think naming the poeple would be a very poor decision by me. However, I can tell you what all the people I'd like to meet have in common:
1. Big heart
2. Sense of humor that I appreciate.
I am drawn to true hearted, caring, funny people...
I do want to do a tweet up BTW... I think that would be a really cool experience.
And with this answer, I'm out of questions again. If there's anything you want to know, please let me know. -
Thank you for making TwentyTen start out for me with a warm fuzzy "Grover-esque" feeling.
One thing I want to say is that people that embrace Twitter/Tumblr/Formspring for what it is, a place to help make others feel good and share constructive feelings, make me feel so good. Sure, comments like these make my heart feel good, but even when comments like this aren't coming to me, I feel the same way. Seeing people support each other in this community show the good side of humanity.
Formspring makes me particularly happy because you can ask someone a question that really gets them to share or reveal something special about themselves. It drives past jokes about your Mom having bacon farts and gets into what makes everybody here think that a joke like that is funny.
Again, thanks... If I knew who posted this, I know I would feel the same way about them. -
Grover is awesome because he's the sweetest muppet there is... When you see him interact with those little kids and they look at him in wonder and then hug him?!?!?! All that sweet little blue fur too?
That's why when I was deciding what my new user name would be, it needed to be a muppet and what better muppet than Grover. I like to pretend that I'm sweet, nice and ask insightful questions just like the little fuzz ball. I also would like to be thought of IRL as cute. -
Thanks for the wishes...
I think that one of the things I'm going to do is take another baseball road trip. This time, I'll drive out to Pittsburgh and start heading back home hitting games in PA, OH, IL and WI...
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