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it's good that you know what you're thinking is bad, that's a sign that you're still in control with things.
alot of people feel better when they don't eat. loosing weight releases endorphins for some people and makes them feel good about yourself.
i suggest you start seeing a councellor so you can discuss ways to keep yourself on the straight and narrow. because once the eating disorder has taken over, it will tell you not to get help or fix it.
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no way. it's honestly totally up to you.
you don't need another person to complete yourself.
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i think you're okay with it because it's your coping mechanism. you don't see it as a bad thing because you want to keep it. without it, you're out of control and you don't have control on anything you do. also people feel less 'ill' when they're bulimic because there's less obvious and not daily side-effects. i know you say you don't mind it, but i really do suggest you get help. the effects of bulimia are long-lasting, if not permanent, and don't always show immediately so you may want to be wary.
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when it comes to feelings it's best to be straight with the person. flirt with them, show an interest in them, make them laugh and then if they respond well to you, and you think it'll be worth it, tell them how you feel.
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almost :) i have my days. but i'm happier now than i have been in four/five years.
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you just have to hint and flirt and see how they respond.
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you need to ask these friends who are encouraging you to talk to her, what they think. whether they think she might like you back or if they've heard anything. or send one of your friends on a reconnaissance to find something out ;) my personal favourite.
i say when it comes to love, you've just got to take the risks. if i hadn't taken a risk and told somebody how i felt then i wouldn't be as happy as i am now.
also, i think relationships are faaaaaaaar better when you've been friends with the person first.
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i've always had this problem. i just find you have to just go for it. trial and error. there's not much you can do but put yourself out there. take risks and try. most of the time there will be nothing to worry about. and just use the fact that you'll be miserable alone at college if you don't go out there and start making conversation.
learn to be confident within yourself and others will like you.
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i don't know in all honesty. sort of around year eight/nine i felt really low and depressed at some points but i just thought it was natural. then as time went on my confidence dropped and dropped and dropped and i got sadder and sadder and starting harming myself and then in june 08 i stopped eating for two weeks, and then started again before i cut down loads of what i ate in november 08 (i think it's 08 dont shout if i'm wrong) until i was eating next to nothing everyday and felt completely and utterly miserable. that's the start of the really bad stuff. then i got bullied and turned on by my friends in school, to the point that i left school one day and attempted suicide. my family were falling apart all the way through this and i was struggling with my sexuality constantly. and then after my first suicide attempt, i was put onto the waiting list for riverside, and spent my days at home depressed, not eating and waiting for something to happen. then i went through a phase for about three weeks where i ran away from home every day and my parents came and found me. just because i needed to get out of the house. then came my second suicide attempt and i got immediately admitted to rehab.
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you shouldn't get involved in their relationship. a relationship is between two people, and when others get involved, it gets messy. if you want to help, then you need to talk to her and encourage her to stand up for herself. but in the end it is ultimately her decision whether she decides to stand up to him or not.
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i honestly don't know what you want me to do about this....
you probably like the challenge of an older guy as they're more off-limits.
i don't think age is a factor in love. if you like eachother enough, age doesnt matter. but there's nothing i can do to change your feelings. -
she may not be jealous of either of you, but she may be jealous simply that you have a relationship and she doesn't. she probably wishes she had somebody of her own herself, and when you talk about him, it reminds her that she doesnt have anyone.
as for the lesbian comment, the fact she doesnt seem to interested in boys doesnt mean she's a lesbian. you'll have to leave that be, as only she can determine her sexuality. not anybody else. -
ask me any questions about it and i will willingly answer them :) but i don't feel comfortable writing my whole ordeal out!
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whether you are fully bulimic or not, it is still not right to make yourself sick. just once can have serious health issues. you obviously have low self esteem and you should seek help as i can guarantee the making yourself sick will continue to deteriorate as time goes on.
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aaaahhhh yaay :D please reveal yourself, i love knowing who i help :)
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sometimes people fall in love and get their heartbroken. and when they do the first thing they want is to move on and get with somebody else to stop the pain and loneliness. in this, they often end up transferring the feelings they had for the first person, onto this new person who they're almost 'using'. it's not 'using' so much. they genuinely do believe in themselves that they've fallen in love again, but as time goes on, they realize that actually they're still not over the first person and that the love has just been transferred. it's hard to explain and accept. it wasn't a lie, because he believed it himself at the time, almost certainly.
as for the sexuality thing, you really do need to just go with the flow. you are obvious proof that sexuality is completely fluid and you can fall for anybody. just keep yourself open to anything.
don't give up on relationships because although your past may have been bad, there are plenty of good things awaiting you in the future, and to close yourself off from love and relationships, would close yourself off from loneliness and would make you horribly horribly lonely. -
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