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Both Revelation (http://www.datingskillsreview.com/revelation-venusian-arts-mystery/) and the Magic Bullets Handbook (http://www.datingskillsreview.com/magic-bullets-handbook-love-systems-nick-savoy/) are a good introduction into approaching women in the bar and clubs scene.
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No - there is no scientific basis saying that there are only 2% alpha in society - in fact the % is much higher and evolves with trends in society.
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You don’t say why you believe she ‘likes’ you. I’ll assume that she is friendly when you see her or that she used to like you.
Keep things simple. To know if a girl is interested look at her ‘actions’, at her ‘behavior’. Not what she says.
Ask yourself this question: Is she moving towards me with her behavior? Or away from me?
For some cultures this is a little more complicated, for example, in Asia where you get less signs of interest from girls because they are less proactive. But even in those cases when you learn to focus on ‘listening to their behavior’ you will see the signs, either positive (moving towards you) or negative (moving away from you).
Keep this in mind: “Your actions speak so loud, I can hardly hear you.” Many guys don’t want to look at the truth, that a girl is just not interested, because it hurts their egos. They don’t want to face up to that pain. But to move forward, and get better with women you have to see reality for what it is. Otherwise you can’t change it. Beware of clinging to tiny irrelevant signals that she may like you – it’s not complicated.
If a girl is not taking your calls she simply isn’t interested or there is a reason ‘blocking’ her from being receptive to you. For example, having a boyfriend. It amounts to the same. It’s not moving forward.
The Bottom Line: She is ‘moving away from you’. Let this girl go. -
Myth. But there is a little more to it than that.
Looks, age and income matter A LOT LESS than most men think. And not in the way men generally think they matter.
Their importance is in this order:
1. Age
2. Looks
3. Income
Let's start from the bottom.
Really "income" doesn't matter at all, except for cases where the woman is actually looking for income. In other words she is a "gold digger" as some people call it, or you could say that she is more interested in money and spending it than anything else. These are never the best women, they are shallow and you will not have any real relationship with them. And it is only a small percentage of them.
Now where guys get confused about income, is when they start comparing all the bankers, entrepreneurs etc. etc. who have a high income (money) and those guys who don't have any and they say - it must be the money. WRONG. You see, like it or not, there is something more important that is different about a guy with income and a guy without and it was there before the income came. It includes things like confidence, ambition, purpose and having a goal in life.
Next time you compare yourself to a guy who has more income than you and you start thinking that he has more success with women because of it. Look deeper. What is it about him that has enabled him to get that income? What is it about his inner game and confidence that differentiates him from you? This is the real point of income.
If you take an empassioned artist who doesn't have a dime to his name, but is driven, and ambitious and has confidence about what he is doing. Women will find him equally attractive.
Now to looks. First impressions count. If your looks are below average and you are standing next to a model then the girls are going to pay him more attention. He will also get an easier time of it when first meeting them. However, this isn't the whole story. You are a lot more in control of the importance of this than you believe.
First, a lot of what makes up your look can be worked on in improved. Your image, grooming, health, fashion, style and hygiene can all add up to 3 or 4 points to your look on a 10 point scale. If you aren't sure about that, take a look at pictures of models before modelling and check them out in the photos. Some of the contrasts are near unimaginable. Work on your look and take control and it will make less of a difference. AND by the way, a lot of those good looking guys, are more good looking because they've worked at it - gym, style, teeth etc. etc.
Second, looks are all about first impression. Girls become a lot less biased by them as time goes on. Have you ever noticed how a girl maybe just a bit into a guy at the beginning of a relationship and then completely in to him later on. The importance of looks is nothing compared to character, personality and strength - things that she learns with time. If you pay attention you'll also see that many good looking guys never get anywhere with women. Because again, it is just the first impression. If they don't have any follow up with real character and skills - then that advantage just gets wasted. If you're standing there and projecting all the right things in the same group as the good looking guy who isn't, guess who the girls are going to take more interest in?
AGE. Well, here again it matters less than people think. Many 40 year olds are dating 20 year olds these days. And there is a reason for that particular trend. How about this - more 40 year olds are acting 'younger' and have more energy (thanks to better health, fitness, diet etc.) to keep with the times. Just having a chronological age doesn't make the difference as much as you think. It is the way you pull it off - you act with that age, that makes the difference.
Think about these things: Are you up to date on the latest social trends? Have you become increasingly 'serious' and less playful over the years? Are you less social? Are you more stuck in your ways? Are you more arrogant? Do you have a bigger ego? Do you feel like you have more to lose?
As with the other two areas, AGE is a lot more in your control than you believe. Personally I'm in my late 30s and women simply don't think of me that way - for them I'm still in my 20s. It's more down to who you are, than any specific 'material characteristic' you want to attach to yourself.
The message here is don't let yourself be categorized by Age, Looks or Income. Control what you can about these things, and build and grow your personality, character and skills. You'll find that these limitations largely melt away (perhaps not disappear) but become a lot less relevant. It's up to you. -
The reality is that when you don't speak a common language with girls that you are approaching fluently it is hardwork. It can be overcome, but it is one of the most difficult things to overcome.
So work hard on your English. Mastering English will benefit your career and everything else you do, so it will be an excellent investment of your time anyway.
Most likely you also have an issue with your image. You don't say at which point they ignore you, but it sounds like it is as soon as you approach. You can raise your social value and as a consequence the first impression you give and how girls respond to you by working on your image.
Check out the top image and fashion advice here: http://www.datingskillsreview.com/rankings/tag/skillset/Image-Fashion/
If you send me a full body length photo of you in the typical clothes and style you have when approaching women I'll confirm whether or not this is your issue - you can send to angel@datingskillsreview.com. -
This is actually a lot easier than most people think.
You should walk up along side her and say something to strike up a conversation. Don't keep looking at her, look forward and turn your head to her when you say some things, but mostly look forward.
The best things to say are situational and funny. If there is something funny to remark about her behavior or image these are best.
However, if you have good body language, are not nervous and come across as cool and confident you can say absolutely anything. Everything works.
Another key thing to expect is that some girls will not respond to you immediately, so you need to talk a bit longer and say something funny to get them engaged.
If you focus on getting just these things right you will be getting into conversations with women easily. -
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Looks, or more specifically, your image are important for the first impression you make with women.
Your first impression decides how willing the woman will be to start or continue talking to you after you approach her. This is really the hardest part of meeting women - once you have got past the initial approach and are in a conversation with a woman it gets easier. You have past the first stage and can now work on attracting her.
So, it is important to make the approach as easy as possible for yourself. An important way to do this is to improve your 'image' through fitness, fashion and grooming.
Normally a guy can improve his image by several points by improving his style and grooming. So for example, if you are a 4 out of 10 in looks, then you could work your way up to a 7. If you're a 5, an 8. This makes your life a lot easier on approach - it means you have to compensate less with approach techniques to get her talking to you.
Having said this, looks aren't essential. They are just a no-brainer to work on improving, since they are possibly the easiest thing to improve about yourself and have such a big impact on how easy it is to approach a girl (and avoid rejection).
Looks are far more important for women than for men. The truth is, with respect to attraction, studies prove that your behavior and confidence are much more important than your looks with respect to attracting women. Unfortunately for women, it tends to be less the case. Being a guy, you are lucky - you have a lot more power to improve your attractiveness than a woman. -
The issues people are most likely to have with cold approaching are:
1. How to go about it to be most effective?
2. How to get over approach anxiety?
You can take two different approaches to this. Because there are two different methods - the external game and inner game approaches.
We recommend that you start with external game. This gives you the knowledge of what types of approaches, words you use, ways you act get the best responses.
Then we suggest you learn how to improve your inner game, which will enable you to approach more naturally - and eventually it will become second nature.
Get Revelation (http://www.datingskillsreview.com/revelation-venusian-arts-mystery/) or Magic bullets (http://www.datingskillsreview.com/magic-bullets-handbook-love-systems-nick-savoy/) to learn how to technically approach someone correctly.
Later you can learn from the blueprint decoded ( http://www.datingskillsreview.com/blueprint-decoded-real-social-dynamics-tyler-durden/) if you need to improve your inner game.
If you are suffering from approach anxiety we suggest you first try The Attraction Code from Vin Di Carlo (http://www.datingskillsreview.com/the-attraction-code-vin-dicarlo/). This has some basics in inner game that will help most guys to get over their initial approach anxiety. It's a good place to start, some guys need more.
The most important is: Take note of our rules in the Fast Track Manual - just do something. If you start cold approaching, even with a bad approach today - that will give you some experience to start improving from. So long as you understand the fundamentals of what is good and bad, it will be easy enough to correct yourself going forward. So just make sure you have read and understood the basics of approaching from the items i recommend above.
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