Gay Bathhouse Etiquette
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Asians usually wait for someone to approach them first. As an Asian guy myself, I know that Asians are typically very paranoid and suspicious in nature. It is in the Asian DNA and that is the way it is. My only advice is to just make the first move and go for it. Either they will reject you or they will respond. But at least you will know one way or another if there is any interest. HTH.
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Well first off try not to mistaken rudeness for shyness. Some guys are just really shy, and it can be interpreted as rudeness. But getting to the question at hand, it is not just bathhouse staff that can be rude. Generally the staff at any gay businesses can be rude. It is just a fact of life, which many in the gay community accept wholeheartedly. They see it as a part of our DNA. Which is why some gay men choose not to patronize gay establishments just because it is gay. They would rather go to an establishment where customer service is of the highest quality. Unfortunately with a bathhouse you can’t get away from gays running the joint. So you just have to accept it. If there is a rude staff person you have to interact with, try to keep the conversation at a minimum. Get what you need, and get out of their face. After awhile when they see you over and over again, some will warm up and start being friendly. Especially if you start leaving a tip. But if that doesn’t happen, treat it as a business. You pay, and they let you in. End of story.
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A form of affection between a couple. Where one person lays front to back with the other person. They fit together like spoons.
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It honestly depends on the bathhouse you go to. Some baths prohibit dressing-up in lingerie while cruising. The reason given is that management wants the customers to be horny for guys, not gals. They see it as feminizing the place. However the policy only pertains to the halls. If you wish to dress-up in lingerie and stay in your room, that is fine. Again every bathhouse is different. You should ask the one you go to what the policy is on cross-dressing. But at the end of the day, in the privacy of your own room, you can do whatever you want to do. And that includes dressing up.
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I don’t know where you are, so I can’t really recommend any bathhouse for you.
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Thanks, I'll keep that in mind
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You are very welcome. Glad you like the site
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There is no bathhouse I can recommend. Generally speaking 'hunk' are not into Asians, but rather to fellow hunks. However the *small* percentage of hunks who are into Asians, tend not to hang out at the baths. Your best bet is to post an ad Craigslist or a Gay Asian hook-up site. That will save you lots of time and aggravation.
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You are not the only one, however you are a rarity. You are going to make one Asian guy a very happy husband someday.
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In terms of STI questions, my advice would be to go to your nearest Gay Men's Health Clinic and speak to someone about safe sex. In terms of proposing a condom for oral, most guys will balk at that. Unless you are drop dead gorgeous with a body to stop traffic, no guy will want to give or receive oral wearing a condom. It sucks (no pun intended) but that is the truth. HTH
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Give out your email address instead. Much safer.
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Thanks for the compliment. As to your suggestions, all I can say is stay tuned.
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It is best to discuss this with an STI healthcare professional. Please look-up a STI phone-line in your area. But do make sure though that the phone-line is gay positive.
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Unfortunately I am so busy with other projects, I don't have the time to sit and write one on your subject. Maybe in the near future, who knows. I'll keep your subject in mind. Thanks for liking my site.
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Is sexual / racial preference influenced by the incumbent culture? Yes that is why you see some Asians 'sticky rice' (Asians liking only Asians), whereas in North America, the attitude is Asians liking White guys, because of the Western culture they are raised in.
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No it is a status symbol, especially if the white guy is loaded. Which is why you see such a wide age difference between younger Asian men and White Guys over 65. The status, the money, the power, the social circle they can now travel in. The richer the white guy is, the better the catch it is for the Asian guy.
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Asians tend to be suspicious by nature. Many white guys who approach Asians tend to have an agenda. Because they know by and large that Asians like white guys, who see Asian men as easy prey. It is not a good feeling to be seen as a back up when there is no one else better around. Or being seen as a fetish something a guy can play with, like a shoe. Knowing you are being objectified like that is not the greatest feeling in the world. So when an Asian guy asks you those questions, take it with a grain of salt. Know that they are just being cautious. That it is not you that they are questioning, but white guys in general. Chalk it up to approaching someone who just got over a bad breakup. When someone asks you those questions, just say ‘I find you sexy’. And the subject will drop. Later one when you get to know the person, then maybe you can reveal how much you like Asian men. But you need to get over their resistance wall first. Hope I helped you see things a bit more clearly.
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I'm assuming dfw stands for 'Dallas-Fort Worth'. All races are welcome at the baths all over the world. You will not be turned away because you are a visible minority. Having said that don't assume that because you get in the door, that every hot guy is interested in you. Whether you are a visible minority or not, all men have their preferences to what they like and don’t like. Just like yourself. Hope this helped and don’t forget to play safe.
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