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That's exactly why I set up Hey Fat Chick in the first place - I never saw anyone that looked even remotely like me.
This is really lovely to hear - thank you! -
I am a predominantly straight female.
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Thank you, lovely! Nothing better than starting your day with a dose of fat chick.
This is pretty much the best question I've ever been asked. My answer? It's innate. I HAVE INNATE AWESOMENESS. -
This is so awesome to hear, thank you!
I don't know if I've ever mentioned this on my tumblr/blog/twitter, but I play with my fat a lot. A LOT. I'm very pleasing to the touch! I grab handfuls of my belly, and I jiggle my thighs and I shake my arms. I play with my fat so often that I do it absent-mindedly; I often poke myself in the belly while I'm watching TV or sitting at the computer.
That helps me really like the body I'm in. -
For starters, you probably don't look pregnant. You probably look like you have a belly. Calm down.
I'm not sure what you mean by "why did this happen". I've narrowed it down to two options - you're asking me why you gained weight in a specific area or you're asking me why you feel bad about gaining weight in a specific area.
Why did you gain weight on your belly? No idea. Bodies are weird and confusing and I don't know why they do most of the things they do. But bodies are also spectacular and resilient, so if the worst thing going on with yours is a flabby belly you're doing pretty well.
Why are you bothered? Because you're human. My self-esteem is not impenetrable. I got stretch marks on my belly for the first time last year and it took months for me to make my peace with them.
Finally, pot bellies are cute. Love yours. -
Thank you, darling! Fat bodies are amazing - never think otherwise.
(For any non-tumblr people reading this, this is the post in question: http://heyfatchick.tumblr.com/post/570717496) -
I like their skin. I like their stretch marks, especially if they're pink and especially if they're raised. I like how clothes stretch over their bodies. I like how sometimes they bulge out of their clothes. I like how their bodies curve everywhere - curvy arms, curvy hips, curvy bellies, curvy cheeks. I like the way they feel. I like the way that my hand sinks a little in their flesh. I like that I can grab handfuls of them. I like their jiggle. I like that they look like artwork when they're naked.
At the heart of it, I guess I'm just a big perve. -
The knowledge that I'm right.
It does get exhausting, though. I take care of myself - I pick my battles (I never read the comments on an article about fat, for example) and I get off the computer every so often.
The truth is that I like doing this. I like finding pictures, I like ranting on the internet and I love I LOVE getting amazing emails from people telling me that I'm actually helping them. That never ever gets old. -
I hear you; it drives me crazy too. My response to the 'fat in unhealthy' arguments are always the same:
1) Fat is not necessarily unhealthy. (For evidence, I suggest going to blogs like Fat Nutritionist and Junkfood Science, as well as essays by HAES advocate Linda Bacon.)
2) Health is personal. No one has the right to demand information about your diet and exercise habits and no one has the right to dictate what you put into your body.
3) Everyone deserves respect. If you eat junk, never exercise, smell and/or have a list of health problems, you still deserve to be treated with dignity. -
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First of all, the idea of negative calorie foods is crap. Digestion requires so little energy - anywhere between 0 to 30% of the calories we eat. For example, celery is commonly listed as a negative calorie food. If a stick of celery were to contain 6 calories, it would only require approximately half a calorie to digest. Negative calorie foods do not exist.
I'm assuming that you heard about these foods through the media. I think that the media has a huge responsibility that they ignore far too often. I don't know if stories about negative calorie foods can cause eating disorders, but those kinds of stories add to the overwhelming message of THIN = GOOD / FAT = BAD, which absolutely can lead to disordered eating. -
This is a really tricky question. You can't go by size or BMI, because they don't take into account differing body shapes. You can't go by weight, because that's affected by a person's height. You can't go by what others see as fat, because other people don't really know anything.
I don't think there is a line that we can draw that separates the 'fat' from the 'non-fat'. When it comes to those who are in-between (perceived) thinness and (perceived) fatness, it's down to that individual to self-identify based on their experiences. -
I've been mulling this over in my head for about half an hour, but the most eloquent thing I can come up with is "Fuck 'em".
You don't owe anybody any explanation when it comes to your eating habits. That's the fabulous thing about body autonomy - you decide what you do to your own body (just as everyone else gets decides what to do to theirs). You are an adult - no one has the right to dictate what you can and cannot eat. If they think they do: fuck 'em. -
Honestly, I've no idea. My mum put so little thought into my name. I've asked her about it before and she was like "Oh, I thought of it on the way to the hospital." Cheers, mum.
I have a question for you: do people spell your name wrong all the time? People always ALWAYS spell my name Francis. -
That's so sweet. Thank you so much. (Asthmatics represent!)
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I've answered a question pretty similar to this, so I'll begin by telling you what I told them.
"It takes a lot of work to be insecure. A lot of time spent fretting, worrying, hiding, and apologising. To let all that go is a massive load off.
In the end, all that matters is how you feel about yourself. You're the one that has to live with you. You have to make a decision that you're not going to hate yourself anymore.
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We all spend so much time trying to make our bodies 'perfect', when the perfect body is so dull. I honestly believe it's our flaws that make our bodies so exciting - the scars, the wrinkles, the bones, the folds and the spots. It's like an ever-changing work of art. Take pride in your imperfections - they are what make you beautiful."
Now I'll tell you a secret: I'm not always as confident as I seem. My self-esteem isn't bulletproof and I have bad days. Don't feel guilty about not having the self-love thing down just yet.
You have to force yourself to start looking at what you like about your body, instead of what you dislike. Fake it 'til you make it - hold your head up and your shoulders back. It will be difficult at first, but over time it will become easier until it's almost second nature.
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I've seen that before - I even wrote a post on it on Corpulent: http://corpulent.wordpress.com/2009/07/01/the-full-body-project/. It's a beautiful series of photos.
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asked by Lauriekay
Definitely yay! I'm a US size 14/16 too and I only ever wear bikinis. Despite all the skin cancer warnings we're bombarded with in Australia, I like having a tan around my midsection. Plus bikinis come in much cuter styles/prints/colours than one pieces.
That said, bikini shopping is an absolute bitch. If you've never worn a bikini before, you'll need to try on a bunch of different styles to work out what suits you. -
asked by lellamy
Sorry for the super late reply on this. I've been overseas and the jetlag has been slow to pass. This is a doozy of a question and I wanted to have my wits about me before I attempted to answer it.
First of all, I don't think it's possible to judge a person's health purely by their appearance. It is possible to be fat and healthy, just as it is possible to be thin and unhealthy (look up 'health at every size' for more information on this). Health is quite complex and assumptions cannot and should not be made from a few photos on a website.
Secondly, my tumblr is not about physical health so it's never considered when I post pictures. I started posting pictures of fat women because I never saw the bigger being portrayed as beautiful - completely and utterly unrelated to health. (I mean, I wonder whether the person behind Fuck Yeah Nikki Sixx has to offer an explanation for why s/he posts pictures of Sixx when he was in the nadir of his heroin addiction...)
Finally, in answering your actual question, I can only talk about my own health as that is the only one I have intimate knowledge of. I don't draw any lines. There is no weight that my body could reach where I would think "HOLY SHIT, FATTY, SORT THOSE NUMBERS OUT." I do what makes me feel good and I trust that what makes me feel good is better for me in the end. I take samba classes because they're fun and it helps me keep my asthma under control. I snorkel because it's beautiful underwater and I feel amazing after swimming in the ocean. I eat a range of predominantly healthy foods because they taste fantastic. Focusing on the numbers of the scale is a losing game.
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Frances’s Bio
I eat, I jiggle, I break pants. I'm awesome all over.
