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Is it possible to be heterosexual but have only been with no one?
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Well, hey, look at who you're talking to. I would not enter into a serious relationship with a man if he said I could never fuck a woman so long as I was with him (and threesomes and voyeurism don't count as sex with a woman in my world). I may causally date him, or even be willing to be exclusive for a certain amount of time, but if it were a situation where in order to be with him I had to give up an integral part of my sexual identity that's been there long before he came along and will be there until I die, then sorry, I pick my identity over him every day of the week. At the same time, I do think that there needs to be a fundamental level of trust, openness, and understanding in any relationship before you seriously commit. When it comes to commitment, I believe in monogamy for myself 364/365 days of the year. But I think if you're talking about spending the rest of your life with someone, you should keep an open mind. There may be times when you or your partner don't feel sexually satisfied and want to "experiment" outside the parameters of the relationship, and I think trusting someone enough to be okay with that is truly important. However, for me, personally? The question of open relationships is not something you bring up early on, but after you've already invested years (yes, years) into building fundamental trust and love with the person you care about. I find that at that point, sexual possession isn't such a big deal anymore.
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I don't know if "worried" is a good way to feel about anything, but it's definitely worth discussing. All couples experience a lull at one point or another--it may be completely normal, it may be because he's overly stressed or self-conscious, it may have to do with increased masturbation or interest in internet porn, it might mean that he thinks he can get it whenever he wants and therefore doesn't care anymore (don't ask, I do not understand this mentality whatsoever, but have experienced it first hand myself). Try to talk to him first about his withholding, and if it gets you nowhere, I suggest snooping through his internet history to see what the deal is. He may be hiding something. If new information comes to light that you can confront him with, your discussion should get you somewhere.
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Ask A Bisexual’s Bio
My name is Stephanie and I'm a sex-positive bisexual cisgendered woman who believes in a common sense approach to dating. To see some examples of how I give and use advice, visit http://firesunderground.wordpress.com/category/sex-dating-advice/
