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I believe fitness is imperative for change. Hard exercise shoots dopamine into your brain, helping you pull yourself out of depression. It's a natural high that elevates mood and boosts self esteem. The relationship we have with ourself is mind and body, not just mind. We were born to sweat, not sit in cubicles all day. Always keep this piston pumping.
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No more apologizing for your state. Instead, start expressing it. And you will start with your man. Express yourself as if the relationship depends on it, because it actually does. Set the tone. If he dodges it, confront him and ask him why he is running. If he doesn't address you or your feelings, he's not going to build you a safe container if you guys were together so then it's time to move on. Also, no more little ears after sentences.
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Depends on your definition of "wild and passionate". Are you talking about experimenting with new positions or participating in orgies? I think it's important that you express this side of you, but only if it's healthy and reasonable. By reasonable I mean he will not be shocked by your desires. It will not harm the relationship. If suddenly, you want to do things out side of the marriage or say... strangle him during sex, there may be more to this than a wild side. But if you believe it's coming from a healthy place, first, do it through behavior. Take the initiative. Turn up your "wild" dial in the bedroom. Push limits. Explore edges. See how he responses. He may enjoy it as well. He may be turned on by your confidence. If there is resistance, then it's time to have a conversation. Ask him why he is resistant. Hopefully, there will be some kind of compromise. Hopefully, you wanting to express this side of you is important to him and he creates a space for you to do that, without compromising his wants and needs. But none of this will happen until you communicate, either through behavior or words.
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Good. You shouldn't do it for anyone else.
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The red flag for me is "we don't have an open convo about our sex life". That communication conduit must be unclogged. Sex and intimacy is all about communication. Sit down and talk to him about it. If you're getting tempted to engage in sexual acts with others, emotionally you are already at a dangerous place. There is drift. If you want a solid marriage, you must start a dialogue. Let this be an exercise to practice your self expression / communication muscles. They will help you with all your relationships.
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Yes, my 30 Day Challenge. It's an affordable way to jump start growth. If not, get into a therapy room. Start processing and exploring your patterns / dysfunctional behavior so you can get to the root of where it's coming from. Once you get there, you can start rewiring and rebuilding yourself. Another words, begin your rebirth.
Don't wait another day.
Do it. Now!
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Address it. Tell him how you feel about his behavior. If he doesn't do anything about it, move on.
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I'm wondering if I actually know this person but whoever you are, thank you for the tip. Although I agree with it, I also think pain can act as a chisel to shape you into the person you want to be, not only physical pain but also emotional. I think pain can either be a powerful tool or an excuse.
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1) Thank you. 2) Depends on your age. If you are 7, I think it’s worth a shot. A 7 year old giving her parents an intervention is not only adorable but also telling of how bad things are. But if you’re in your 20’s, they may think your “moderation” is annoying and intrusive. That being said, if you are even considering this, it means two things, either things are really that bad and / or you have a good trusting relationship with your parents. That would equal a green light, on one condition. The focus should not be on moderating, but rather self expression. Tell them how you feel, how much you care about them, and how their relationship is effecting you. That’s it. They will do what they will with that information. You are not their therapist. Do not try to give them advice or process their problems. You will learn more more than you wanted to know. Trust me.
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Congratulations. It takes courage to break the homeostasis of your family. But remember, the more you do it, the more you are facilitating change / movement toward either growth or dissolution.
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That's good to hear. The thing is I wasn't trying to be funny. Joke. Thanks. Appreciate it.
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Go here during the scheduled time. I think. It's my first time so apologies. But call this number to ask me questions or just chat. 347-205-9970. I hope someone calls me.
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I will consider that after I finish the 3 other books I'm trying to get out as fast as I can. As far as Colbert goes, they have security guards I'm sure.
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I think great things happen to those who are good.
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I don't think asking for more verbal affection is naggy. There's more of a chance you will be naggy if you don't express yourself / your wants. Your frustration will leak out in different ways, including pestering behavior that have nothing to do with what you are really frustrated about. It's called pouting.
If there's something you would like, I think it's important that he knows. Now, depending on his story / wiring, it may be difficult for him to give you verbal affection so any slight sign of change should be rewarded. Nagging disguises a feeling of weakness so prove that you are not weak and express yourself.
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formspring has a cut off. only half your question was submitted.
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Thanks for following. I appreciate this.
Be well,
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I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist. I have a Masters in psychology, MFT. I've worked for non profit residential treating addicts as well as an out patient private treatment center working with eating disordered patients. I've done individual, couples, family, and group sessions for the last six years. I gravitate toward Bowen, Solution Focused, and Narrative therapy. But I also have my own concepts, angles, and language (containers).
Thanks for following.
- Angry
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