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Woah, outta the blue question, and not by formspring? I didn't know anyone looked at this anymore.
A ritual to attract my attention? Romantically or just to get my to listen? haha... ;)
My attention seems to be pulled by stimulating and thought-provoking conversation, regardless of the circumstances. -
Only thinking for a few seconds I came up with...crisis avoidance counselor, specifically the on-call variety responsible for helping suicidal individuals from taking their lives.
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Humans are very comfortable with their attachment to material things...
When you're surrounded by things without feelings your entire life, you might not be as prepared when it comes time to connect with something that actually connects back.
....Fear of judgement or ridicule. Fear of misunderstanding or failing to meet expectations that don't even exist. Fear of being feared...
..all things that might cause a second-thought; when in reality we shouldn't have anything to worry about, most of the time.
It could come down to the ever-distancing spread of family circles, and our pioneering of individuality. Everyone wants to be like no one, and no one wants much help, save from Google. People are too far removed from one another, and it's hurting us...it's part of the growing social net we rely on. I have friends that socialize with people on Xbox Live more than they do with me. As for myself; It's easy to spend hours on a computer when instead I could be talking to my parents while I still have the chance. Go figure.
True connections with real people are becoming harder and harder to find, and I think we're getting used to it. (May I briefly mention the irony of that statement, being said to someone completely anonymous? Not a bother, just humorous. =P )
I for one appreciate your sentiment, and share it. Thanks for your question, and goodnight. :) -
Chicken fettuccine
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Sorry for the wait. Formspring is giving me...issues. Ok, there are a few things that come to mind when I think about this. I have felt this way before, so I hope something I say helps. If you can, let me know how things go--as your question concerns me. Feeling voids like this can be painful.
So, could it be that you haven't had any good talks with close friends lately? I've found that you have to keep a few people close to heart (at least one person) to avoid feeling alone, despite being actively social. It doesn't matter how many friends you have or how much fun you have while you're out and about with them. What it really comes down to, is whether or not you have a healthy and intimate connection with one or more of those friends, beyond just being someone you can spend some time with. Someone who you can share feelings, concerns, and experiences with. Could it be that a close or one of your best friends has moved away, or you have moved away from them (geographically or mentally)?
As far as geography is concerned, long-distance relationships can cause you to inadvertently pay more attention to other local friends while loosing sight of existing relationships, that already mean the most. I have personally experienced this, to the drastic extent of almost LOOSING a best friend and straining other relationships. If you are near my age or a similar point in life, chances are that people are dissipating every which way, and the rather solid sense of structure and 'norms' you had are now displaced or completely gone. Don't let it get you down though, it DOES get better. You will have to take initiative if you're in a rut, but it will get better.
If you haven't done so already, start talking to someone you can relate with. Someone you don't have to be afraid of receiving ridicule or undue criticisms from, someone you can trust with pretty much (if not) everything, including honesty. People like that can be difficult to find if you haven't already found any (which I imagine you have), but perhaps you simply haven't connected that way with those you have lately. Either way, don't get discouraged.
If distance is an issue, don't forget the value of a phone conversation if you can't see someone in person. Some individuals aren't 'phone people,' but still make an effort even if they don't...and don't rely on facebook. I know you use it, (or you wouldn't have my formspring link) --but don't use it for this. Mostly, it is too impersonal, and I feel text in general should mostly be reserved for communication of facts, not feelings. Text won't bring the satisfactions of a healthy relationship unless it's a hand-written and thoughtful mailed letter, or perhaps a good long (private and not on a wall) message online. If you must use digital communication, try to do so in more heartfelt messages in your effort to connect with someone.
We've come a long way from close-knit multiple-generation families and close friends living in the same town; past postal letters, phone calls, and now we even forget email for quick 5-second messages and updates in a virtual social system that keeps us constantly connected but inevitably DISconnected from...reality. Don't let this get in the way of things. It's very useful to make initial connections, but just make sure you use it in a healthy way while continuing to maintain those really important connections through OTHER means.
I think communication these days is pretty sad. Technology can be as much of a blessing and it can be a curse. I won't even begin with all the textual misunderstandings and blunders that have crapped on my relationships with certain people. NONE of which would have happened in person.
As I went into college...I met countless people in a single semester, so many that I couldn't go anywhere without seeing a friendly face I knew. I got overwhelmed with social options; not knowing who I was or where to go next, and I saw and talked to the best friends that I already new, much, much less. This put me in a similar situation to the one you seem to describe, surrounded..yet..alone.
Well, I hope some of that was helpful and wasn't too ranty. Also, without knowing more about you, or what has gone on in your life lately, I of course can only make educated guesses, so I hope some of the things I have said, help.
If you are sure it is not to do with close friendships, perhaps you became very connected to a partner, or (a) God, and fell away from one, or both? I know either of these losses can have a powerful effect on an individual, depending. However, in some ways, what I've said can apply to both of those issues as well..
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I do know how you feel... I'm going to have to think about this one, I don't have anything too great right now to answer with. I'll re-ask it to myself and answer again soon, I think. I hope you resolve your negative feelings soon though, don't give up ok? It does get better. :)
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Awww, well I'm sorry I made you sad. Why is this question anonymous? Don't you want me to know who you are?
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....hurrrr......*'splodes*
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When and where did you come from?
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I'd go to my parents or a close friend, hopefully someone who knows a bit about what I'm having issues with... and see what they think. I don't really go to any single person, just whatever happens really. Opportunities present themselves. Like right now...I'm going to go talk to someone who can probably help me feel better about something that just happened, because something similar actually happened to them.
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GTA San Andreas, or Gran Turismo 4...it's debatable. Probably the former. Then Super Mario RPG if you go back to when I was younger, and Super Mario World, then Top Gear 2, if you go further back. ahaha...I LOVED that game... I might have to get it and have some nostalgic gaming action. =D
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Hahaha...PIRATES. I like being a pirate, and I can kick ninja ASS!!
Seriously though...they've got guns AND swords, and they're not afraid of water. I say ninjas probably are, because they are stealthy like cats, and most cats detest wetness.
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For a friend: If you entertain hug offers more often than not, one day you'll find someone, just by the hug they give.
For an enemy (as a joke XD): I hope you not eat cookie before reading me, because it's bad luck to eat cookie before read fortune. Also note; cookie is poison. Have good day nao! -
Pain. No...pain teaches us. Uhm...wow that's difficult. Killing comes to mind. That or the ability to actually inflict any significant harm on another being...too much wrongful death happens on this earth. I was just in the jury pool for a murder case in fact...so there you go.
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How many do you think I have?
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Kinda, I suppose. It's not really a secret per say, but its not something I share often.
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I have played sports, I don't currently play any actively. I do enjoy ultimate frisbee, bowling, pool and pingpong if you consider any/all of those sports. I played baseball when I was little and basketball when I was young, along with soccer, and then tennis later on in highschool. I liked all those, but nothing worked out as far as keeping it in my life.
I want to re-visit tennis though, I would never have quit but I got really sick the year I started playing and it killed my tennis career before it could really get going. Plus, I have two nice new Wilson rackets in my closet...I just need someone to play with.
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Andrew’s Bio
I'm an artist, musician, singer, photographer, and student, among other things. I'd say more but this is a place for you to ask me questions...so go!
