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We use bumGenius 3.0 one-size pocket diapers. We started with them when Peeper was about 4 months old. When she was about 14 months, we had the velcro converted to snaps, because it was about shot - and because Peeper knew how to open it! I think if I had it to do over, I might go with the bumGenius all-in-ones that come with snaps.
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I used to really enjoy football. I played with the neighborhood boys when I was a kid (and "powder puff" in college) and was a Oilers fan (even had season tickets for a few years) when I lived in Houston, but now I don't follow it at all.
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A bagel with peanut butter and honey.
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I'm open to doing reviews, giving my honest opinion of a product.
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AP = Attachment Parenting. Which has nothing to do with being lesbians, per se, but it's two big things we have in common with these two families.
Last summer, within a span of about two weeks, we met two other lesbian couples with sons about Peeper's age (one a month older, one a month younger). As we got to know them, we learned that they have similar "parenting styles" as we do, which would be best described as "attachment parenting."
We very much enjoy spending time with them, not only because they are just nice people and the kids play well together, but because it's nice to be with other people with whom we're on the same wavelength, in terms of such things as breastfeeding, cosleeping, babywearing, and the like. -
Hmm, there are lots of foods that I don't like and won't eat, but I'm not sure I can think of something specific that I've had and will never have again.
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It's very possible that I've got something older than this, but the one thing that comes to mind is a t-shirt that I bought at the Millenium March, which was in May 2000. I suppose it's almost ten years old, isn't it?!
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I used to be a big football fan, and it's still my favorite sport to watch (or play, actually) but I don't really watch any these days.
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There's somewhere that I'd love to have my ashes scattered, but I can't quite get past being sort of creeped out about cremation, so I think I would rather be buried. I think.
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I speak English, Peeper Sign Language and, increasingly, Peeplish.
I also have a bit of high school German and some very, very basic Spanish.
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Oy, that's a tough one. I'm just winging it here.
I think the best thing that you can do is what you're obviously already doing. Be there for her, listen to her, and make sure she knows that her coming out doesn't change how you feel about her.
It can be a very tough process, and the more positive, supportive people around her, the easier it will be.
Of course, if she's getting negative reactions from her friends or family, that will make it all the harder.
I was very lucky when I came out, in that all my friends and family were completely supportive. That made it infinitely easier.
Also helpful, at least in the sense of motivation, was the fact that I was in love with Shrike and wanted to be with her, and pretty much had to get okay with being gay if that was going to happen.
If your friend is open to the idea of counseling, I would strongly encourage her to talk to a gay-friendly therapist about her feelings.
Meeting other gay people with whom she might have (other) things in common, and making "couple friends" would probably help her to feel less isolated, and less "different."
If those people are out and comfortable with their orientation, they can be positive role models for her, as well.
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Peeper was born with two holes in the wall down the middle of her heart, one between the upper chambers and one between the lower chambers, called an atrial septal defect and a ventricular septal defect.
Congenital heart defects are the most common birth defect, and ASD/VSD are the most common congenital heart defects.
The problem is that these holes between the right and left sides of the heart allow blood to backflow to the right side, causing more blood than normal to go to the lungs.
This makes breathing difficult and can impact a baby's growth, because they spend so many calories just breathing.
Most of the time, the holes will close on their own by the time the child is three, but if they don't, they must be repaired surgically, before the pressure causes permanent damage to the lungs.
To decrease the pressure in her lungs while waiting to see if the holes would close, she was on Captopril, which is a blood pressure medication and Lasix, which is a diuretic, from about three weeks old until after her surgery.
By the time she was about three months old, it was obvious that the holes were not getting significantly smaller, so she had surgery to close them, when she was four and a half months old.
The atrial defect was sewn closed and the ventricular defect, which was larger, was patched with Dacron, a silk-like material.
That stopped the backflow immediately, and as soon as she was off the ventilator, she was breathing at a normal rate.
Her recovery went beautifully, and as of a couple of weeks ago, her cardiologist said that if he didn't know better, looking at and listening to her heart, he wouldn't know she'd ever had a problem. -
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My decision to be anonymous on my blog has nothing to do with being ashamed of anything I'm writing about, or with being worried about someone reading the blog and "finding me" in real life.
I'm 10000% out in my "real life" and screw you if you don't like it, and I also figure if someone knows my name and wants to find me, they don't need the Internet to do that.
That said, I am going the anonymous route here for a few different reasons:
Shrike is much less comfortable than I am about sharing our personal stuff with all the internets and she asked me to. That's reason enough.
I liked the idea of being free to rant about specific people or situations that piss me off, without worrying that the subject will read what I said - although it turns out that I've not actually done that much.
But, the primary reason, is that I really didn't want someone to be able to google my name or that of any organizations or businesses that I might be involved with (when I started blogging I held a leadership position in my local Democratic Party and was looking or work) and stumble upon the blog - angst, four-letter words and (for a while there) way too much menstrual specificity, and all.
When I first started blogging, no one in "real life" knew about it, but over time, I've become more and more comfortable sharing the blog with my real life friends and acquaintances, to the point that I sometimes find myself thinking, "Why do I have to tell you this. Didn't you read the blog?!" as though they've not done their homework assignment! -
The place itself wasn't bad (or wouldn't have been, in season) but the worst vacation we've taken was probably to Provincetown. In February.
http://whozatshrike.blogspot.com/2003/02/before-blog-you-cant-get-theah-from.html -
If someone would pay me lots and lots of money to do exactly what I'm doing right now - being Peeper's mama and Shrike's wife - it would be perfect.
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Big, scary, gross bugs. You know the ones I mean. Please don't make me say (type) it outloud.
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I'm not currently running any paid ads on the blog, but would certainly be open to that, for products and services that I believe in.
If you'd like me to consider running your ad, please contact me at <a href=mailto:whozatshrike@blogspot.com>whozatshrike@blogspot.com</A>. -
The first cloth diapers we used were prefolds and covers that we bought from a friend before Peeper was born. I don't remember the brand, but they were very basic - plain white, sized (we had small and medium), velcro.
We weren't real thrilled with them, mostly because they were a pain to put on, and also they were very bulky, especially on tiny little Peeper.
(We started using them when she was around 3 - 4 months old - about 8 lbs.)
That's when DoulaK (our doula, LLL leader and, now, <a href=http://www.momandbabynaturally.com>cloth diaper and baby carrier dealer</a>) suggested bumGenius 3.0 one-size pocket diapers, and gave us a few to test drive.
We liked them right away, and bought a total of two dozen.
As time went on, the one thing we've not liked about the bumGenius, though, is that the velcro just didn't hold up.
Even when we closed the "laundry tabs" the hook side would get full of fuzz, which had to be picked out, and the loop side got all fuzzed up.
They eventually got to the point that they weren't staying closed reliably at all, so we sent them off and had them converted to snaps.
The snaps take a bit longer at changing time, and the fit isn't quite as precise, but once they're on, they're on.
If I had it to do all over, I might start with a diaper with snaps instead of velcro.
I might also consider and all-in-one, instead of a pocket, just to save the time and effort of stuffing them, but then we wouldn't have the flexibility to adjust the absorbency, so maybe that's not such a good idea.
We've actually done the snap conversion in two batches (the additional shipping was cheaper than buying disposables for a few weeks) and the second batch should be back soon.
Because of that, we've been running on half our normal "stash" for a couple of months, so I can say that you can manage with a dozen - but two dozen is much more comfortable. Right now we're washing a tiny load every night, and a couple of times we've had her wearing the very last one, with our fingers crossed, waiting for the dryer to stop!
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I'm just your typical lesbian who met, fell in love with and moved half way across the country to be with the woman of my dreams, writing about life, love and - holy cow - parenting!
