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Would be a total WIN hahahahahaha ;)
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Hopefully my BUDDY! But if she doesnt, then whoever wants it. Actually, I think it'd be great if Abby Foster took it over, then we could have THESPIAN VOICE DEAR ABBY! I'm so clever. But it would work cause she's a smart gal and old like me ;) hahaha
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I already answered this haha....default to similar question below.
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I have to say I don't. You should ask the person who made the 'theatre kids are transparent' comment...I must be dumb.
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Good for you, if you feel like sharing with the class, please do. CONGRATZ U WIN ON FORMSPRING!!!!
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I wasn't gonna respond to this publicly but this is really such a nice thing to say. I wish I knew who you were so I could say thanks...so thanks ;)
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Wildly unavailable as in she has a boyfriend? Or unavailable as in she is busy as hell? If it's the first one, and she has a boyfriend...sorry boutcha, but it is personally against my relationship policy to advise anyone to go after anyone who is already in a relationship. Not only does it raise an ethical question, but relationships that come from cheating or that move straight out of one and into another are very prone to failure.
If the girl you like is unavailable in that she is a hard girl to catch five minutes, well then that is something you can work with! Being a ridiculously busy person myself, I can give you some perspective, because contrary to popular belief, if a someone tells you they are busy, or have certain obligations, it doesn't always mean they are blowing you off - it may just mean that it is simply a very busy time in their lives.
What I prefer, as a busy person, is someone who asks me to hang out who has a concrete plan in mind. During high volume times in my life, it is really no good to ask me "so, do you want to hang out sometime?" or "when are we getting together again?" These kinds of questions put pressure and stress on the "unavailable" person, giving them the feeling that not only do they have the obligation to hang out with you, but its up to them to find the time in their schedule and figure out what to do. And to be honest, when I'm going through my busy times, I mostly don't want to deal with that, even if I happen to like the person.
The best plan of attack is to have a concrete plan in mind - and ask her if she wants to join you. Get tickets to a sporting event, or a concert, an art show or other type event, and ask her if she would like to go with you. This does a few things - it takes the pressure of having to plan something off of her, and it gives her a concrete date to work with (since it sounds like she needs to schedule in advance). Plus, it lets her know you were planning on doing these things anyway, and she knows you will probably be able to find someone else to go with you if she is unavailable, which takes another pressure off of her. Starting to make sense? It takes a little work and pre-planning, but even those of us who are running around wild aren't impossible to catch ;) -
Here's the thing. You're never going to "make him see" what a great person your friend is. And I'm sure she is a great person. But, if he really cared about her, and wanted to be with her, he would NOT string her along or play games with her. It is often tough see clearly when you get caught up in the throes of being really attracted to someone, and we often are willing to see past their blatant mistreatment. If someone is seeking a relationship that is based on sex, and nothing else, and if to them it seems as if they are getting it, they are not going to stop if it seems they have a good thing going. Your best bet is to remind your friend, continually, of what an amazing person she is and how much she deserves. You can't tell her what to do, but do not encourage or state that you approve of her behavior. We often want to blame the person dicking around in this scenario for hurting another, but these things often boil down to lack of communication. He could think that she is just fine with their arrangement, and if she is not, she needs to either approach him about and see how he feels (and if he doesnt feel more than just physical feelings for her, end it) or she just needs to end it for her own peace of mind, because I guarantee you, since he is benefiting from the equation, he will not end it. It's a tough thing to do, especially when you are really into someone, but it is necessary. Good luck.
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This shows an amazing versatility...and they only made you the smelly kid cause after the dancers saw that you looked much better than them as a drag queen, they got hella jealous. Haters.
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I'm no longer accepting applications.
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I do not drive nor do I own a car, so I won't be much help! Sorry!
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It cannot be fixed. Just give in. It may be wrong, but it feels oh-so-right.
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I'm still confused, but if what you want is a threesome...you should have just asked.
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Maybe? You should probably just have a conversation with me. Preferably not via FormSpring.
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I'm not sure what you're asking me, but yes, you CAN come to UDC tonight and I'm sure Ginger will give you a back massage.
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The 'no shit' answers: Respect, love, commitment, etc.
The specs: I like someone who knows his/herself. I like people who acknowledge and know their flaws and can keep them in check, but aren't hung up on perfection. I like people who look at the world differently than I do. I like someone who will fight with me and values what I have to say as a human being. I like somebody who knows when to be tender and when to get a grip on their shit. Somebody who respects his/herself, will stand up for his/herself, without putting me down.
Oh, yeah, and if you're a nerd/dork/geek of any kind, i'll probably put out.
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Dear anonymous,
This depends. Is your friend depressed? Are they currently going through a trying time in their life that affects their day-to-day operations, including their relationships? If so, then I would say that not only is this a friendship worth putting effort into, it is a friendship that NEEDS effort put into, even if it seems one sided. I believe in loyalty very, very much (maybe to a fault). Evaluate your friend's state of affairs. Sometimes the best way to be a friend is simply to not go away, to stick around when all others have left.
On the other hand, if you feel this person is using you, has never sincerely connected with you or tried to connect with you, only talks to you or hangs out with you when it is convenient, or lies and spreads rumors about you, its time to ditch this "friend". you can still be perfectly respectful and cordial with the person, but don't keep on with the hope that this person is going to be anything more than a casual (not so nice) acquaintance. Hope that helps. -
I'm pretty thick when it comes to these things.
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Hey Youngster,
you're so adorable. I'm assuming this is a "she's over 21 you're under 21" scenario? Well, if that's the case, this isn't really that difficult to solve. Step one: get her number, if you don't already have it. I'm assuming that since you "really like" this girl that you guys probably either work together, have class together, or run in the same social circle, so it won't be too out of the blue or weird for you to find a reason to get her number. Step two: when you do see her, talk to her. Ask her about he weekend plans. Ask her what movies she likes, blah blah blah. Get a gauge on her responses to you. If she's friendly and doesn't try to blow you off, mention the possibility of hanging out maybe that weekend, or in the future, watching whatever movie you talked about or asking her to hang out with your friends at your house one night. Point is, get her to be around you! Be friendly without being overbearing, and from there you can get a feel for how much you actually like her and whether or not the feelings may be reciprocated. And if they are, let the age thing go - you'll be 21 or older soon enough, and believe me, the bars are not really a romantic scene, so you aren't missing much. Best of luck, and props to you for going after the older women!
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Jackie’s Bio
Dear Jackie is a column written for the West Chester University Theatre Student-Produced newsletter, The Thespian Voice.
