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I'd like to think so. All anyone can do is try their best, and nobody is ever really ready for the chaos that ensues when you become a parent.
I hear a lot of people say that as long as they don't out like their parents they'll be happy. Well I think that if I turn out like my mama I'd be pretty darn pleased. She always did what was best for me, even if I didn't think it at the time, and went without to make sure we had the best she could afford.
Part of me can't wait to be a mama. I'm excited to have a little human that's part of me and the man I love, and teach them all the things we know. I am inspired daily by the great parents I am proud to be friends with; like Caitlin and Mitch George, Doug and Alex Hale, and Sara and Jeff Taylor. The way they are all raising their children to be people of the world and live with open minds and hearts fills me with so much excitement for what I can create in my own family.
And then there's another part of me that's scared crazy... I guess the only way I'll know is 20 years after it actually happens and they tell me if I did a good job. -
I've had people send me messages on here or my Facebook about people I've worked with, or friends in bands or certain ex-boyfriends.
I seem to get a lot of hassle about Simple Plan and All-American Rejects. A couple of months ago I had a girl send out a few furious Tweets about Seb and I, demanding to know how I knew him and asking all her followers what they knew about me. And a similar thing happened a few years ago, where I had 2 SP fan girls texting my friend about me after they saw me with him after a show.
The same thing happened with AAR. I got a ton of abusive anonymous messages on here, asking super personal questions about something they knew nothing about. Some of it was obviously from people at shows because they would mention things they'd only know if they'd seen me in person.
I suppose all the 'stalker' type stuff is just from girls, and it's about boys. Most of the time they're jumping to the wrong conclusion. I don't tend to get any stalkers that are really interested in me! I should be happy, I guess! -
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Haha. This sounds like you were trying to come across as a little bitchy, but whatever. (And I believe you meant 'Why' instead of 'why', 'don't' instead of 'dont' and 'you're' instead of 'your'.)
I've had 2 tours fall through at the last minute this year, where the band brought over their US guy instead. When a US artist is trying to work out ways of saving money, they hire a UK person rather than pay for visas and flights for their US guy. Sometimes they manage to get their tour support increased at the last minute or find some extra pennies, and they change their mind. Which is awesome for the US merch guy because he gets to tour Europe but sucks for me.
I actually work a hell of a lot, but I don't always write about it because it can be boring. At least for me, anyway. I feel like you guys are only ever interested when I'm working for someone that's really famous or in the charts. All the mundane stuff like working in the Arena, doing tour accounts and advancing shows isn't really something I can write about in too much detail.
And... I'm not just good at my job, I'm amazing. I know I'm a great merchandiser; if I wasn't then I wouldn't get hired at all. Trust me on this one. There are a hundred jumped up little kids begging bands to take them on tour, saying that they'll work for free. But bands choose to take me and other paid merchandisers out because they know we're good. I can run a 5 page sales sheet with 20 different items in at least 4 sizes, I can project sales for a 6 week tour, and I can sell £20,000 of product in one night by myself. What do you do? -
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I hope saying that made you feel better : )
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I'd LOVE to get my knuckles done. On a tour last year I had "HOT 'N' COLD" on my knuckles almost everyday in pink Sharpie. My boss joked that she'd pay me to get it done for real, but obviously there's no way I'd actually get something like that.
I thought about getting something like LOVE TOUR, TOUR LIFE, LIVE FAST, HARD LIFE, that kinda thing. There are a lot of classic knuckle tattoos, and I don't know if I'd want to get something generic or something unique to me.
I know quite a few people that have little images instead of letters,and I adore that idea. I think it looks awesome. My friend Caitlin has a little blue bundle to represent her son, an outline of Texas, a strawberry, and a few other cute things. I know a few people with diamonds and lightning bolts and stuff like that.
It all comes down to my job. When I'm on tour I can show all my tattoos and nobody cares. But in a more corporate setting (like when I work at the arena when I'm home) they have to stay hidden because people aren't quite as accepting. One day... maybe when I grow up and become a motorbike mechanic. -
Haha. Thanks?! Um... I think I dress like a 5 year old let loose on a scene kid's wardrobe with a pair of scissors.
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I wanted to be a few things. I mainly wanted to be a dancer. Then I wanted to be an artist manager. Now I just want to be happy.
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In Mary Poppins the head of the bank dies laughing...
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Yeah, I'm all that AND better than you AND your mum put together.
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I don't really answer questions about Katy's private life, or anyone else I work for. My cop out answer is as follows:
As long as Katy's happy, then I'm happy for her. All I want in the world is for the people I care about to feel loved, and if Russell does that then I'm 100% for him. -
I love you more than words could say. Sunshine of my world, light of my life, killer of my liver, and saver of my sanity. When are getting our whisks?!
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Having a degree in Music Management is definitely not a fast track way of getting a job in the music industry. I didn't get the job I have today, or any other job I've had the music industry because of my degree.
Going to University is all about getting life experience. My Stepdad has a degree in Geology, but he's an ambulance driver. My friend is a Tour Manager, but he has a degree in History and Economics. Another friend is one of the greatest drummers I ever saw, but he has a degree in Geography. I can never say this enough, but it's all about the people you know and the effort you put into the real world around you.
Having a degree in Music Management won't open any magic doors, but it will teach you a hell of a lot about independent study, sticking to deadlines, spending money on books you'll only read once, how to do a weekly shopping budget, how to not prioritise drinking and buying shoes over paying your rent and how to relate to your peers in both a professional and social environment.
I can't give you a yes or no answer, because in some ways having a degree is awesome, and in other ways it's stupid. i know what you mean about the expense of it all, I currently owe about £20,000 in student loan fees. Do I think that having a degree will earn me more money? Perhaps. Do I think it's worth having £20k of debt? Perhaps not.
I have a degree in Marketing & Music and Media Management, but I live out of a suitcase, on a bus, selling t-shirts and setting up stage equipment.
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A crumpet never tells. We don't get paid to talk...
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It depends what you would define as "self-diagnosing". Seeing somebody with Aspergers and recognising similar traits in yourself is not the same as fully researching the disorder and talking to healthcare professionals.
Getting officially diagnosed is a long and lengthy process. It's not as simple as going to your Doctor and saying "hey, I think I'm different". He can't just look down your throat and see a sparkly glittery ball of Autism. My family was definitely helped in that my Grandmother is a clinical psychologist.
As with all disorders, it's definitely different with every individual. There are lots of books you can read, and the National Autistic Society is very helpful. -
I was never officially diagnosed, as in I was never "statemented" by a child psychologist. At the age I should have been given extra help, I was instead written off as weird, quiet and socially awkward.
In the UK, the ratio of diagnosed Aspergers boys to girls is 16:1, but it you included all the undiagnosed girls, this would actually fall to just 2.5 boys for every girl. Thousands of girls stay undiagnosed until their later years, if at all, because unfortunately there is still a stereotype amongst care workers of what Aspergers is, and it's only recognised in the way that boys which Aspergers present it.
Different studies show different numbers, but I guess the average chance of an aspie having a sibling with Aspergers or another form of Autism is 10-20%. My mum must have been in that lucky group, as my younger brother was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was a child. He had regular home visits from a care worker when he was very small, as he had difficulty with his coordination. I guess this made it easier for him to be diagnosed.
Wow! This has to be my longest answer ever! Thanks for being interested : )
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Tabby Burkitt’s Bio
Touring merchie/production assistant/drum tech. Sometimes living in the big smoke, always living out of a suitcase.
