i read ur blog about how to make metal frds. But, my situation is none of my frds listen to this and they don't come to gigs. i go alone and i am guy, even when a girl smiles its hard to approach for me. so none applies what u said to me. what to do?
Friend, what I really wish I could do is bring you out to a show and get you shaking hands with some people. (If you're Boston-local, I will!)
One thing that might help you out is to remember that the people at shows have something in common with you - they like music. It's like going to a football game, but for metalheads - people getting together on account of a shared interest, which serves as social lubricant. You can turn to anyone at a show and say, "Hey, how about that opening act?" or "Did you see their last tour?" just as a football fan could turn to a stranger and say, "How 'bout them Dolphins?"
This is true of girls, too! If a girl is smiling at you, it's totally an invitation to go say hello - she might be disappointed if you don't. Just smile back and wander over, nobody will give you shit for making smalltalk.
Best of luck and please reach out if you want to talk! XO Emily Bleak
