Ask me a secret, or tell me something sweet
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*smile* That is so lovely, thank you for giving my older posts some love.
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They *should* be reading those poets, also Paterson and Lawson, of course...
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This is terrible news. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. But next time, it will!!
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"Will you compile your posts into book form one day? Hope so!"
*laugh* Thank you for the thought, and funny you should ask that. I am working on something. I will probably post some information about it soon *mysterious eyebrow waggle*.
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I do not, I am lazy. Also, I have no garden, a fact which makes me quite happy.
Having said that, I did a short landscaping course so that I could strip back, plan, and plant an entirely new garden in my last house. It was a large block: I filled it with fabulous Australian natives, and put a deck out there. The end result was really pleasing.
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Oh, you are a poet AND a singer... *swoon*
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I am obviously the dream-pogo queen!!
I will keep popping up in your dreams and beating you at things until you have time to talk again.
I hope your holidays are wonderful!
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*smile* Oh, you flatterer you.
I would let you run your fingertips gently over my face to feel if I was enjoying it.
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*laugh* Are you asking me out?
No thank you, not even a little tiny bit. Do you have a better offer?
Oh wait... the exception is if you are a sexy, passionate, fabulous singer** and you are going to sing beautifully for and to me. If that's the case, you are talking about something quite quite different...
** For the record, it doesn't count if your mum told you so...
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*smile* That is so lovely! Thank you for the wonderful compliment.
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Here's what I do:
The one liners: "Thanks, but I'm not interested. Best of luck."
The sincere ones you aren't interested in: "Thanks so much for your thoughtful email, but I don't think that we will be compatible. I wish you the very best of luck finding what you are looking for."
I hope it goes well for you.
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Awww... well you got her phone number, so yay you!!!
Why don't you say something like:
"Hello /name/, it was so nice meeting you the other day/night/whatever. I was so nervous about making this phone call, I didn't really know what to say... *assume some reassurance and sweetness here from her, maybe a laugh*.
I'd really love to take you out for a coffee to continue our conversation about matter/anti-matter/rat tails. How about Saturday morning?"
The WORST thing that can happen is that she says no. And honestly, if you don't try, it's the same outcome, except you will feel bad about yourself for being too shy/nervous to do it. If you DO try and she says no, you can proudly go "Hey, I gave it a shot. Go me!!" It's no small thing and you *should* be proud. So go do it!!
And maybe, just maybe, she'll say yes and it'll be the best thing that ever happened to you!
I wish you the very best of luck.
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You don't say what your or his experience is, so I am going to assume it's 'none' on both sides.
I'd advise you not to try and dominate him at all. Tell him you are interested in finding out about it with him (if you are), and tell him that you think it's unwise to play at D/s before you've met (it is), and then spend the time getting to know him as a potential vanilla interest in the meantime.
If you have a romantic interest, then you might play a little bit with D/s flirting (lightly, so he can back out if he wants). Take a look at my recent post on this (don't do any 'advanced' stuff, just see how it feels to flirt that way a little, if he picks it up, if it works as a natural dynamic).
I'd add that *some* submissive men will try and push you into things you aren't ready for (yes, I know you are the dominant, but still), and if you feel pressured, tell him it's not on, and that you will go at your own pace or not at all. If he says that makes you 'not a real dominant', you've unfortunately picked a loser and should cut him lose.
Best of luck!
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*smile* I'll keep that in mind...
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*smile* Thank you, but I really wouldn't. I am much better as the favourite aunt who dispenses wisdom and treats and then disappears until next time...
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I have no idea what you are saying to me, but the exclamation mark at the end implies it's exciting!! So yay!
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Oooh... good question (not least because I actually had to look up 'charcuterie').
My favourite cheeses are camembert and brie, but I like a lot of relatively mild cheeses (whether soft or hard). I don't like really serious, strong flavoured cheeses (the stinky ones or the blue veins), but I am mostly willing to give any cheese a try, because... cheese!
I'm not so big on prepared meats, but there are lots of titbits I like there. Good hams of different types, smooth creamy pate, spicy pepperoni or salami... yum!
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I am not sure quite what you mean by 'mental degradations', but my first question is, 'Is that something that you enjoy?' If not, don't do it. It's not for everyone.
If it is, then spend (a lot of) time talking to your slave boy to make sure you understand a) what that means exactly and b) how to hit those buttons without toppling over into the 'oh noes it's gone horribly wrong' space.
Any kind of humiliation and degradation has the potential to go wrong, so you need to know him *very* well to ascertain where the line is and make sure not to cross it.
I know that's kind of general, but any kind of humiliation or degradation play is *very* personal and individual-specific.
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