Works just like it would work in a legal setting or with children. You agree on boundaries and you enforce them through consequences.

No Idea, male submission is a mystery to me.

There is no "best" way of finding anyone for anything. As with all things in life it is highly dependant on what you are and who you are. Where you look and what you hope to find. I have come to the conclusion that the on-line world is a nice introductory environment. If you are serious, got o events and munches, meet someone.

I think I would like this a lot better if it was not the stereotypical red/black contrast that is so often used. I guess I would like the latex fetish world to adopt some more colour :) Especially the BDSM tinged ones.

Hesitant about what? I would think that hesitation is often linked to an underlying fear or a trust issue. Pay close attention to it.

Compassion and the ability to see past possessions.

I am not quite sure I understand the question. Maybe you would care to explain a bit more in detail what you mean?

Well if that is indeed your arse suzy, then it is most suitable for spanking, slapping, cropping, whipping, flogging and of course to show off a nice little buttplug with a tail at the very end. *winks*

In one way or the other. Since bondage is a part of the things I do with the ex-pet and also my slave. However that exact situation has not happened yet, I believe. There is always a willingness to explore such matters first hand though.

You are NEVER too old to expand you sexual horizon. Get such ideas out of your head at once. You should never allow age to limit your willingness to explore beyond what you are used to. With age you should be better equipped to handle change. We have done may things that are depicted in the comics, but not all of them. Some of these are meant to be fantasies which have yet to come true, but all of them are picturing something we would do. At least what I would so.

The BDSM 101 comics were created because I wanted people to, playfully so, get an idea of what kinky perversions are a part of my life. Some of them fantasy and some of them very much so reality. I usually go through the script with the person that draws the comic for us.

My cockdoll is a voyeur and I can say that she enjoys watching almost more than participating. Of course I would look at her now and then, but I am mostly concentrating on the person I am abusing, that is what brings me the pleasure. My slave not only likes watching me abuse another woman, I think she quite loves it. Would you enjoy being watched by her?

There is always room for improvement. I enjoy fucking an ass-cunt immensely. One of the reasons is that my cock is not exactly the smallest and in my past I have had women complain about that when it came to anal sex. However a well trained asscunt is more than suitable to swallowing a wider than average cock. I also enjoy the loo, I find it sexy and of course there is an element of control and humiliation involved as well.

Do you think your backdoor would be sufficiently trained for a nice hard, fuck?

First of all, you are not bothering me. Asking these questions and getting answers will make it easier for you to execute judgements that will make this lifestyle either less or more appealing to you. So please do ask, I do not mind answering these questions at all.

Naturally most japanese women are fairly small, they are probably in the range of 95lbs to 110lbs. However you can suspend pretty much anyone up to probably around 200lbs and more. That requires some special precautions though and usually you would not do that for a prolonged time. Suspension really is a function of your height, your weight, the muscle tone and what position you are being put in. I am sure that your weight is more than suitable to your body's proportions. You would do just fine and if you wanted more, a body can change.

Well, there are two answers to this. One of them is that she does not get a say in such matters, it is about pleasing me and not her. However that is not completely true. I would want you two to get along as women first and foremost. I am sure she would be more than happy to get to know you better and then take it from there. After all we have been doing this for a while and we get pleasure from it.

I do not like intricate rope work that is done just for the sake of looking good. For example I do not enjoy artistic knotting of rope at all. Traditional japanese rope bondage is very functional.

Depending on the suspension and what type of suspension it is, it can last for a few minutes up to maybe 20 minutes. It very much depends on the tie and the resilience of the person being tied.

When it comes to floor works, some girls can stay in those ties for hours.

Well first and foremost I would tell you to do it with us. Simply because I am greedy, you are not that far away and I just like playing with those who are new to the lifestyle.

However if you are looking for something more immediate, I would suggest you visit the local munches. Once you have visited some of the local play parties and lunches in the Vancouver area you can also visit one of the play parties. With an individual or at the play party you can negotiate exactly what you want. For example "10 bare handed swats on each ass cheek". Of course you would also have a safe word in case things got out of hand. Have your first experiences in a public setting or with someone you ave learned to trust. Or, of course, with us :)

The relationship problems my cockdoll and ex-pet experienced were not mine to solve. Yes I looked at them as a third party. I was responsible for them, because I did not understand how to best approach a relationship where three people are involved. I think I understand that a little bit better now.

It was not hard to play with ex-pet. As much as I love my slave and her emotional integrity is important to me, she still serves me and my needs. So once I was convinced that she could handle it, it was not hard at all.

Yes, when ex-pet comes over my slave will get involved now and then.

The act itself was not very sexy at all. It is a very mechanical and rather sterile act. However the knowledge to have a permanent mark on her is very pleasing. That is something we have always had as a plan for a toy as well. I think there is a special kind of trust necessary for something like this to happen and that makes me very happy.

Yes, I have hurt people to the point where they utilised their safe word. However in most of those situations I did so, because they wanted to truly understand their limits. Pain is a very tricky thing and one has to be careful with it. Your brain does not perceive pain much different from perceiving pleasure. I do enjoy the reaction I get from someone that learns to accept pain as pleasure. Some people are more wired towards that behaviour than others and I believe there is little one can do to change that physiologically.