Kenny Powers

Thanks for your question!

I'll do my best to help, though full disclosure: the reason *why* you cancelled your original large wedding might be helpful context (or your 'get out of jail free' pass on this). Alas, here it goes.

Scaling back any guest list might hurt feelings - that does not mean you should cave and feel guilt-tripped into inviting everyone. You may very well hurt a few feelings in this process, but if treated delicately, you can minimize the damage.

First, proactively address the people that need some attention. If anyone is getting [cringe] uninvited, they should hear it from you and your fiance, first.

Explain in the most intimate medium possible (face to face, if distance affords it, if not, by phone or a thoughtful card) that some circumstances have forced you and your love to revisit your initial wedding plans. You've both now agreed that a small wedding is what you'd both like and as such, have had to undertake the heart breaking work of shoehorning your new guest list to fit your new wedding plans.

Offer your sincere apologies and extend an invitation to host them for brunch/dinner/whatever when you're back from your honeymoon.

Good luck - let me know how this goes!
Karen x

Thanks for your question! There are no expectations of what to spend on a gift, ever. Anyone who tells you otherwise is subscribing to made-up rules. You could certainly go in on a gift with your beau and divide the cost. Perhaps they've registered at a store and you could find something there?
Or, you could put together a fun gift that's intended to set them up for their honeymoon. That, with a great card including a heartfelt congratulations, would be a lovely, thoughtful gift.
Hope this helps!
Karen

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Thanks for your question - and congratulations on your upcoming wedding! First, let's concede that if you are already planning to invite your little niece and nephew, then you really aren't planning an adults-only wedding. It sounds more like a "mostly-adults-and-a-few-select-children" sort of wedding. And fair enough, you can invite whomever you like.

Even if you ruffle a few feathers in the process of building your guestlist (you can't please everyone when it comes to your wedding), handling it delicately should allow you to to smooth anything out.

I wrote a piece on this very subject just last week, so if you like, you can check out www.weddingbells.ca/blogs/advice/2012/04/25/the-dos-and-donts-of-hosting-an-adults-only-wedding

The short of it, however, is to balance any potential hurt feelings with how you really want your wedding to play out. In this case, yes, parents of children around your niece and nephew's age will wonder why their own kids weren't invited, if these two little ones were.

It's all in how you handle it with them.

I hope I've helped, take a read of that piece and hit me back if there's anything else I can do! Good luck!

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