I hope this can help,.let me know if you have any more questions.

http://ask.yuriyandinna.com/2011/11/10/obey-parents/

Probably introverted, but it depends on the day :)

Yuriy, sweetheart, are you reading this? :P

Thank you for that information love! Blessings :)

It would seem off if that were the analogy but that is not how the analogy relates. In the analogy of the house, you are not the worker who is using or buying the tool. You are the tool. God is the worker and buyer. He paid a high price for us and He is working in us, provoking our desires and prayers. Your and mine prayer is the work of the Holy Spirit within us. If we are praying according to our own will, our prayers are in vain and they are only empty words without power. It's parallel to a hammer that's on a sale rack at a store, it can not do nothing on its own, it's dead and so are our prayers without God's will.

Every persons salvation is dependant on God's will, mercy and Grace.

The end result of the house is not dependant on the nail or hammer, it is dependant on the builder who buys the nail and uses the hammer according to his will. In this case, God.

Depends on what you mean by expensive. Colored rings aren't usually too expensive, in many cases they are actually cheaper than a good quality diamond. Mine was a little more because it's a sapphire and it's probably one of the more expensive colored stones. If you just want a colored stone, you can definitely find a good price, it will most likely cost you less than a diamond.

Because your prayer is also predestined.

The reason we pray is because it is predestined. In a way it's like a man who decided to build a house. He first, draws out a plan and "predestines" exactly how the house will look like and because he knows exactly what the house will be, because he knows where every plank of wood will go and what color the walls will be, he goes out buys the tools and equipment he needs and builds it.

So it is with God. God isn't just randomly taking a chance and playing risk, He knows exactly what His church will look like, exactly how it will be built and how it will function. Our prayers are provoked by His Holy spirit, it is God in our hearts giving us the desire to pray for people, the compassion to pray for people and through that He builds His church.

You don't say to the man who is building a house "Sir, why are buying all these tools and working so hard if your house is already predestined and you know exactly what it will look like?"

Do you?

No of course not, because that man will laugh at you and tell you that the only reason he is working hard, building and buying tools IS because his house is predestined.

So why would you question God? Our prayer is God placing desires in our hearts and working in our hearts in order to draw more people to Himself. Our prayer is one of the tools God uses to build His church.

The reason we pray is because the end is predestined.

http://ask.yuriyandinna.com/2011/11/14/romance-other-religions/

Of course! The Bible instructs us to pray for people over and over again. It is God who puts people in our lives and gives us a love and compassion for them and it is His Spirit that provokes us to pray for their souls and salvation.

"Brethren, my heart’s desire and my prayer to God for them is for their salvation." Romans 10:1

I'm not sure what your relationship with your bosses is and you did agree to the job knowing the hours. You can definitely approach them and tell them that you thought you could handle it but are realizing you can't, ask them if there is a way to get your hours cut. If they refuse it, then I guess the choice is yours, only you can determine what's worth more, the job or your time? Maybe start looking for a different job while you are working here, one that fits your schedule better...

"You may be surprised to learn that Scripture can shed some insight into why you may be feeling resistant or resentful when it comes to lovemaking. In a well-known but often misrepresented passage about marriage, Paul writes, “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife“ (1 Corinthians 7:3-4).

These verses have been used to browbeat wives into feeling guilty for not wanting to have sex or for avoiding it. But notice that Paul doesn’t say a wife’s body belongs only to her spouse. It says it belongs also to her spouse. As “one flesh,” a wife shares her body with her husband. Bible commentaries also point out that when Paul says we “belong” to one another, he’s not just emphasizing our ownership rights over one another, but he’s also clarifying that our exclusive conjugal rights belong to each other —no outsiders allowed.

This passage does not teach that a wife (or husband, for that matter) should submit to sex whenever, wherever, and however our partner demands it, no matter how we feel. Rather, it teaches that since my husband’s body belongs to me, I should care about it enough to give it pleasure whenever I possibly can, and he likewise with my body. In the same way, since my husband’s body belongs to me, I should also be understanding and generous when it’s not “in the mood,” and he likewise with my body. The emphasis is on mutuality, not selfishness.

At first reading, this passage may also seem to teach that sex is a duty, a required act. But duty is better translated as sacred responsibility. Paul is advising couples to continue to have sex on a regular basis because sex is at the heart of our sacred oneness and helps to protect our fidelity. The intent of this duty isn’t that a wife complies with a husband’s selfish appetite for sex on demand or vice versa, but to fulfill her sacred obligation to meet her husband’s sexual needs, keep the marriage bed pure, and keep each other free of sexual temptation.

Let’s look at another passage. In Ephesians, husbands are told to love their wives “as their own bodies“ (Ephesians 5:28). “After all, no one ever hated his own body,” Paul writes, “but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church“ (v.29). God describes a husband who loves his wife so much that he puts her needs as high on the chart as his own bodily needs! In regard to sex then, if a husband loves his wife this way, there’s no danger that he’ll mistreat her or take sexual advantage of her, because that would be like hating his own body.

In God’s ideal picture of marriage, if a wife wasn’t feeling up to sex, for whatever reason, the husband would honor and respect her feelings as if it were himself who wasn’t in the mood. If a husband doesn’t love his wife this way, he—not she—is sinning when he expects his wife to be available for intercourse on demand and without regard to her feelings.

Okay, so now we see that God didn’t intend for a wife to be a slave to her husband’s sexual needs. However, on the other extreme—saying that a wife has no responsibility or can shirk her obligation to nurture a healthy, ongoing sexual relationship—is equally wrong and unbiblical. A wife who regularly refuses to have sex or is only willing to be intimate with her husband on her terms is also acting selfishly. If you consistently rebuff your husband’s sexual advances and resent intercourse, you need to take active, positive steps toward restoring consistent and mutually satisfying lovemaking to your marriage."

From Marriage Missions

http://ask.yuriyandinna.com/2012/05/22/know-you-are-saved/

Take an evening, get some ice cream and invite your boyfriend to watch this sermon with you:

http://marshill.com/media/religionsaves/sexual-sin

Jesus changes even the most stubborn of us. Grace can do crazy things and it does turn hearts of stone into hearts of flesh.

"For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God," Ephesians 2:8

"It does not, therefore, depend on man's desire or effort, but on God's mercy." Romans 9:16

"being justified as a gift by His grace through the redemption which is in Christ Jesus" Romans 3:24

"But the free gift is not like the trespass. For if many died through one man’s trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many. And the free gift is not like the result of that one man’s sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification." Romans 5:15,16

"For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." Romans 6:23

"For the gifts and pthe calling of God are irrevocable." Romans 11:29

"For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned." Romans 12:3

"No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him." John 6:44

"as many as had been appointed to eternal life believed." Acts 13:48

"In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will," Ephesians 1:11

As for repentance, I believe the best explanation of how it works is found in Ezekiel 36:25

"I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you shall be clean from fall your uncleannesses, and gfrom all your idols I will cleanse you. 26 And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. 27 And I will put my Spirit within you, and CAUSE you to walk in my statutes and kbe careful to obey my rules."

Only then, after God gives us a new heart and puts His Spirit within us, only then can we repent.

" Then you will remember your evil ways, and your deeds that were not good, and you will loathe yourselves for your iniquities and your abominations. 32 It is not for your sake that I will act, declares the Lord God; let that be known to you. Be ashamed and confounded for your ways"

Repentance is our expression when we look back and view our old lifestyle with our new heart. It is our expression when we see sin from the lens of our new heart. We can not repent unless God first gifts us a new heart.

Here is an article by my husband addressing the issue, it helped me understand it when I myself was hitting my head against the wall asking this same question:

http://egblog.yuriyandinna.com/2010/08/26/does-god-author-sin/

I think every day is a new lesson ;)

I usually try the silent treatment, it's a lot more powerful than arguing, trust me, lol. However, I am blessed with such an amazing husband, I don't even know where he gets his patience and wisdom. He is an amazing communicator and he never has to raise his voice. We usually talk through our differences.

"There is nothing in the Bible that mentions forgiving yourself. Such a concept is unbiblical and worldly. Forgiveness is from the one against whom you have sinned. Ultimately, when we sin, we sin against God and break his law. But also, sometimes our sin can be against another person when we break the Law of God."

Which is what happened in this case, you have sinned against God and you have sinned against the one you cheated on. You need the forgiveness of them both.

"To seek forgiveness from yourself would be to ask yourself to forgive you for what you've done against yourself. But this doesn't make any sense. We are not the ones who make moral laws that we can break. Rather, God does that, so forgiving yourself just doesn’t make sense.

The Bible tells us much about forgiveness, about forgiving each other, being forgiven by God, but never about forgiving ourselves."

"The idea of forgiving yourself carries with it the implication of guilt and the need to be released from the guilt. Sometimes we Christians do things that are truly regrettable and the remnants of our sin haunt us. Usually it is in this context that someone might say a person needs to forgive himself, but again this is unbiblical.

Our forgiveness comes from God, because ultimately it is God against whom we have sinned. If you are carrying guilt because of sin and you can't seem to get rid of it, then you need to realize that there is no sin you have committed that cannot be cleansed by the loving sacrifice of Christ. It is not an issue of you forgiving yourself. The issue is whether or not God forgives you. So, go to the cross and know that Jesus has already forgiven you, loves you, and will receive you to himself."

You do need to repent and ask forgiveness from the person you have cheated on, explain to them what you have done and seek their forgiveness. And you do need to seek forgiveness from God. You can not forgive yourself.

"not yet gotten an answer or anything and I am still really confused. would it be wrong for me to approach him and tell him how i feel? because it is distracting me A LOT lately, or should i wait?"

"An open rebuke is better than hidden love" Proverbs 27:5

In other words, it's better to be rejected by the one you love than never telling them that you do. I would advise you to stop torturing yourself and gently confront him. Don't demand anything from him but you have the right to ask him what his intentions are, especially that he gave you reason to believe he might be interested.

This may be helpful:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hluo9nyHBSs

Play

Of course I can.

Have you tried talking with her? Seriously pouring your heart before her and sincerely telling her how you feel?

start out with telling her how valuable she is to you and how precious her friendship is, make sure she understands that she means alot to you, then gently ease in and tell her that you feel distant from her lately, that you feel like you are irritating her, ask her if there is something you did and not noticed.

It might not even have anything to do with you, girls are that way often. Maybe she is going through something that she is not sharing with you, maybe it's pain, fear, doubt... And she takes it out on you because you are near by, it's just a way of dealing with feelings.

Perhaps that by sharing your heart with her, she will open up to you?