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No, we don't play with other couples (at least not yet). If we play with other people, it's still a one-on-one thing (he'll play with someone else, or I will). What's most important for either of us in playing with someone else is if we have a connection besides the kink. I have to know someone before I play with them (and this means having a drink with them at a party, talking with them and others that know them, and-- most importantly-- watching them play with others). I have to feel comfortable with them in a vanilla situation before I play with them. The same goes for Master.
As of now, neither Master nor I have sex with other play partners. This is mainly because if we play with anyone else, it's usually at a public party where sex is not allowed. Also, since we go to parties together, even if we were at a private party and played with others, we rarely will split up and play with someone else at the same time. (This means that I will sit and watch Master play with someone else, or he'll watch me play with someone else.)
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This is tricky. The short answer is that you can't make a "vanilla" person kinky. Just like you can't make someone who hates spaghetti eat spaghetti (at least without them cringing). Kinks are kind of like food: there are some we *love*, some we hate, some we'll try once, and some we'll never try again. To a person who wants nothing to do with kink/BDSM, they basically don't want to try *anything* on the menu. And there's no way to get them to try it without making them feel uncomfortable or unenthusiastic.
The guy I dated before Master was similar. Really, really sweet guy. He was great to hang out with, talk with, and he obviously cared about me a lot. But he didn't want to hurt me. Ever. Once or twice he attempted to choke me (after I told him it turned me on), but the "choking" was nothing more than his hands gently wrapped around my throat as he continued to make love (yes, make love) to me.
It was honestly one of the reasons why I broke up with him. BDSM is something that I do need (in some part or another) in a relationship. So I guess you have to ask yourself, how important is kink for you? Is it just something "for fun"? Is it something you're willing to sacrifice for your relationship?
Another thing to keep in mind is, would he be alright with you finding a play partner? I know a few couples who are happily married, but one of them isn't into kink. But they are fine with their spouse going to play parties and getting their kink on with other people. (Different couples have different rules in regards to sex: some say no genital touching, some say no penetration, others are fine with everything.)
You can't turn someone kinky. No one can tell another person how to be turned on.The bottom line is, how important is kink for you? (Can you live without "steak"? Is it your favorite food ever? Would you resent him for taking "steak" away from you when you need it?) -
I'm assuming you're the same person who asked this on my Tumblr, and I've answered it there. I hope I've helped! :-)
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FetLife is basically Facebook for kinky people (that's the short answer). You have a profile, can upload pictures, list your fetishes, join different "groups", friend other kinky people, etc.
I would recommend FetLife for networking. For Master and me, it's been an incredible resource for finding kinky events, parties, classes, etc. in our area. (However, living in New York, there are kink events aplenty-- I'm not sure what the scene would be like in a small town in Minnesota, for example.) We've gotten in touch with some really great people, and it obviously helps establish a sense of community.
If you get a FetLife, however, keep in mind that you don't have to pay and basically anyone can join. So privacy is really up to you. For example, I don't use my real name and I don't reveal personal details anywhere on the site (I have a separate "kink" e-mail and never give out my address or phone number). I do have pictures of my face on there, but only those I'm friends with on FetLife can view them. Master, however, has no full-view photos of his face, however he reveals his real first name instead of coming up with a fake one-- basically because his name is nothing unusual or foreign. It's up to you and whatever you're comfortable with.
If you and your Master are looking to connect with kinky people in your area and are looking for local parties and events, I highly recommend joining!! <3 -
Yeah, still don't know what you look like. I'm flattered, but how a man uses his tongue doesn't impress me much. It's how he uses other things that get my toes curling.
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I'll read the book (when I have time-- which is not any time soon with school and life) but it's hard to get turned on by a gray person...
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Thank you for listening to the Masocast! That's a really good question. Master and I do goof around a lot, but it's mainly because of our personalities. He's really quite silly, and no one can make me laugh like he can. That being said, no one can hurt me like he can and make me cry into a puddle of whimpering mess. He can bring me very quickly into subspace with his words and actions.
I hope I can explain this correctly, but it's because we have such a strong relationship outside of our M/s dynamic that allows me to fully respect and serve him as my Master. Because I know he loves me so much and really cares for me, and I also know that he loves when I'm a good slave and obey him properly (and I love being his slave!!). This is why in most of our scenes (especially in public) we start off as goofing around a bit, laughing, smiling, making jokes, etc., but then it blends somewhat quickly into a more serious tone (usually when the tears come on my part). I suppose it's in both of our natures to seamlessly and quickly go back and forth between goofing around and me licking his boots (for example).
And if I ever do tease him or goof around when I'm not supposed to, all he has to do is give me a stern word, look, or smack for me to be his silent slave again. (Not meant to be a punishment at all-- just a reminder and a nudge that he wants me to behave a certain way at that moment. And since my ultimate goal is to please him, of course I will comply to the best of my abilities.) -
The south of France. I spent a month in Paris this summer and it was so unbelievably amazing. I'd love to explore France more, especially the countryside. Besides, Master and I would love to move to France one day.
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Here are just a few: pain (I'm a masochist- flogging and crops are my drugs of choice), role-playing power dynamics (boss/secretary, student/teacher, daddy/girl, etc.), rape play (consensual, of course, not *real* rape), degrading name calling (slut, whore, etc.), service-oriented submission, boot-licking, being an ottoman... And of course I LOVE wearing my collar and being on Master's leash. You can find many more listed on my Fetlife profile.
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It would really depend on the household dynamic. I already live with my Master and, while I do serve him periodically throughout the day, I really enjoy the freedom to do/say what I want (as in any vanilla relationship). So if I were to be a live-in slave, it would need to be a situation where there was some flexibility and freedom for me to, say, spend an entire afternoon reading or shopping. I don't think I could ever be a true 24/7 slave. I would get way too frustrated and feel entirely too distanced from my Master.
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Is it not obvious from my Fetlife? Is the fact that I am listed as a "sub" and I am "slave of" and "in service to" my Master not enough? I am 100%, fully a slave with no intentions of ever switching. If you desire to be a slave to a Mistress, I suggest being a little more attentive to details, especially such obvious ones.
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Ugh, no more feet questions. Seriously. I won't answer them.
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What's with all the feet questions?? Someone sucking on my toes would be a very submissive thing for them to do. And I'm not into submissive guys.
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Jesus Christ, good God, oh HELL no. I believe in doing good for the sake of being good. Not because you're bribed or threatened (aka, heaven and hell). Also, religion is EXTREMELY outdated. Like marriage. But don't get me started on that...
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Rich. Definitely. You can be "famous" and not be rich, and, come on, we all just really want the money, right?
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Holly’s Bio
New York, NY
www.holly-gonightly.tumblr.com
My goal is to show the positive and fun side of an M/s relationship. Because no one makes me laugh more than my Master-- and I am completely devoted to him.
