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Well, it depends on the situation. Typically, I'm pro-clothes except in circumstances where bring naked presents an advantage. :o)
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It depends -- I guess I'd say "yes," "no," or "kind of" depending on how the dress fit. I'm a firm believer in telling people when something doesn't look good on them because I want people to do the same for me. I rely on the honesty of others to make sure my fashion sense is acceptable.
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I'm going as Scrabble! Yes, I am a total dork. It's a really cute costume though so I'm pretty excited about it.
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Shut up. You just got beat by Iowa State.
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That's a REALLY good question, and nearly impossible to answer. I like just about any wine if it's paired correctly with the right food -- but if I'm just drinking a glass, I tend to gravitate toward Chards or Pinots. I'm also a huge fan of just about every Italian varietal I've ever had, and I'm definitely a seasonal drinker, so it's more likely I'll drink white in the summer, red in the winter.
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Of course! But I am totally not ready to leave yet...
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Sleeping. haha. No. Really. Sleeping. :o)
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Honestly, no. She's totally not my type. :oP
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I have some crazy stories here, but I'd probably have to go with the one where a student almost punched me because he got a D on a paper (he did actually swing at me, but shifted at the last minute and punched the nearby file cabinet instead). After that, he pulled some of his friends together and as a group, they stalked me and physically threatened violence if I didn't give him a better grade in the class. It was awful, and I almost quit teaching.
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Well - professionally, I'd like to be going up for full professor (or getting really close to it). I'd also like to be in a stable relationship that makes my life better on a daily basis. Right now, signs point to both being possible. :)
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Cool. I totally haven't kept up with it (obviously since you asked/commented this four weeks ago). :o)
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Definitely! There wouldn’t be patterns of attraction if personality types didn’t impact relational decisions. For example, I know I talked before on here about my “thinker” tendencies. That’s a real handicap if you’re involved with a “feeler” person. Culturally, we tend to separate these traits by gender (men are thinkers, women are feelers), but a lot of men are actually feelers. I’ve had some weird relationships with people who could not handle my brashness and became very annoyed at my need to use rationality and logic to understand parts of the relationship. At the same time, I find myself attracted to feeler type people far more than to thinker people – I guess because I like balance. So, absolutely there is a link between little personality issues and our sexual attraction on the whole.
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I'm flattered. But I'm not single. :o)
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Hmmm…I thought I already answered that. But I guess I’ll clarify since it seems to keep coming up (I deleted two other questions similarly structured out of my box, so if you asked a variation, here’s your answer).
Attraction for me tends to happen on three levels (intellectual, emotional, physical…yes, in that order) + an analysis of the rationality of the attraction (because I don’t see the point in getting involved with someone if it’s not going anywhere). As I said before, I’m intellectually attracted to students sometimes. On all the other levels, not so much. Students are rarely emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship with me other than teacher/student. They tend to expect that you’re there for them emotionally, but don’t generally provide the same emotional support in return. Which in a way, is kind of part of the job description. Of course, I’m generalizing here. I have had tons of emotional support from students at various points in my career, especially when I’ve had crazy, traumatic things happen. But an emotional foundation that you could build a relationship on? Not really. Only a handful are even capable of sustaining a friendship of sorts with me after they graduate. I exist for them in THIS period of time and then they leave. Meanwhile, my life goes on and I have more students that appear to replace those that left. I emotionally invest in them, yet VERY few emotionally invest in me. Not exactly something you could build a relationship on long term (unless you want something that’s codependent, which is not really my style).
Physically, I don’t even think about students that way. I’m one of those lame people who never had a crush on a professor in college because it never crossed my mind to think of them as anything other than an intellectual. In fact, I had to have it brought to my attention by a colleague that students might have crushes on me. He used to joke with the students who would admit they had a crush on one professor or another that, “You bring nothin’ to the table!” And, it’s kind of true. There’s a big age gap that can’t really be crossed in terms of experience. College students ARE adults, but they’re just not where I’m at. So, sometimes I meet students that I think, “oh, I would have been your BFF in college!” or “I totally would have had a crush on you in college” – but it’s always put into that frame of reference. Hopefully that answer will put the mystery to rest. :o) -
Ok, so – I think there is some kind of “God” because I’ve had enough weird experiences with spirits/angels/ghosts/whatever to know there’s SOMETHING on the other side. Sometimes I have faith that “God” is helping me out, other times I think s/he is just messing with me (kind of like all of humanity is a giant SIMS game or something). But religion I tend to be wary of because it’s run by regular people, people with baggage just like the rest of us. Most of what is done in the name of religion tends to fall into judging others without getting to know them – which regardless of religious preference, seems wrong to me. I’ve read every major (and a few minor) religious text/doctrines searching for answers to get to…I don’t know. And I’m okay with that. Religion is not really my thing, but I do feel like I have faith (sometimes) and I try to trust the signs when they are pointing me in one direction or another.
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“Throwing in the towel” – huh. Well, that phrase could be used for a lot of reasons. If you’re giving up on a project/idea/relationship, I’d say sometimes it’s okay to cut bait. Not everything has to work out, and sometimes your life is better if it doesn’t. I really hate giving up on things because I don’t like to think of myself as a quitter, but sometimes things are just not meant to be. One of the biggest frustrations I experience on a day-to-day basis is how timing is everything – and sometimes you have to quit on things because the timing isn’t right.
If you’re taking this to a more dark and morbid place, I’d say that first and foremost, you’re not alone. The worst part about feeling that down is feeling like there is no one there for you. I will say that in some of my darkest hours, reaching out to others is what helped me get through. I’ve been a big fan of the work done by http://www.hopeline.com/ through the Post Secret project. It’s a great place to reach out, especially if it’s late at night (because depression always seems to hit the hardest then, and you feel like you can’t reach out to people because you’re bothering them). I am absolutely convinced that without these kinds of resources, I never would have lived through my 20s. So, get help. It helps. And it does not make you weak – it takes a very strong person to admit they need help, which is part of why it can be so hard. But there are so many moments to live for that you haven’t even thought of yet, so don’t let the pressure of now keep you from hoping for the future. -
This answer is probably going to over-analyze this question far too much – but I find the language choice interesting. What constitutes “naughty”? The word is typically used to signify disobedient or mischievous behavior, and almost always attached to the culture of children (Santa’s naughty list, etc.). So, I find the term infantilizing, particularly when it’s used in a question to a woman – we mark things as “naughty” for women when they don’t conform to particular cultural norms or align with patriarchal expectations of their behavior. It also implies a power dynamic, in where the individual, in order to be “naughty”, would have to be reacting against some kind of power constraint from an authority figure, whether parental or dominant in other ways.
Given that, I’m not sure I’ve done anything constitutively “naughty” – I’m not much of a rule-breaker, but I do also like to challenge social norms, so in that sense I guess I do a lot of “naughty” things. -
HAHAHAHA - If that's true, it's entirely accidental. I feel like a big faker when I try to dress/act "sexy" - it's really not my style.
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Hmmmm…if I could do high school over again? Wow. First, I don’t think I’d EVER want to do high school over again. If I did have to go back there, I wish I’d actually known how to flirt. I was SUPER dense when it came to understanding whether or not people liked me. Also (and this is something I’m actually still working on at the moment), I’d try to enjoy some of the present moments more than thinking about the future. I spent a lot of high school dreaming about things in the future instead of living in the moment.
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A Heffalump of course! How would you even ride a Woozie?
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